|
You seem to cut right to the point so I was hoping you might help me out with this...
I am dating my friends ex, and have been dating him happily for about 5 months.
Yeah, it was a bit tense at first, but everything between my friend and both of us is grand now. Thier relationship was a short one and they were pretty mis-matched. We're all cool.
The problem is a lot of our mutual friends don’t know this or they suspect it, but don’t actually know for certain. We recently graduated, so we don't see eachother as much anymore. She never told anyone (I had mistakenly assumed she had told most people), and our friends are used to me being pretty tight lipped about my love-life... So, I’m not sure how to bring it up now without it seeming like I was misleading people before.
I doesn’t help that most of our friends did not like him during their short relationship (I practically loathed him myself). They were very dysfunctional and miserable together. I don’t expect our mutual friends to be happy for me or for us all to hang out as one big group or anything. I just feel like they should know.
Any thoughts on if/how to tell them?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Just mention it to them.
You're close lipped about relationships, so say so. You're close lipped because you try to control what other people think of you, and you're worried now for the same reason. Ive done this for pretty much all my life.
Seriously, just unwind about it and say something. I dont think your friends are going to care too much, just say that you didnt know how to bring it up but you wanted to tell them because you are happy about it and are enjoying being in the relationship. They'll probably be happy for you.
Personal opinion, youre thinking too much about this. Chill out and enjoy it.
]
More Questions: |