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No love back?
please help me with my question i promise I will rate anyone who does.
My bf and I have been goin out for a little over over a month, and recentaly, this other guy, kenny, hugged me, it wasn't in a i like you kind of way tho, he only hugged me because my friend steph was suppose to buy him lunch, but she didn't have enough money, so I told him I would, and thats why he hugged me, he also has a gf, well my bf say him hug me and I told him it was nothing, but he told his friend (also my freind) derek, and derek told me taht he said that he felt cheated on, and our convo later that night was tense becasue we talked about what happened at lunch, before he left, I told him that I loved him and he didn't say anything back.
We are no longer on the kenny page and have moved on the next day, but then derek told me that he told him that if something like this happened again he would brake up with me cause it hurt him to much. Well, I told my friend Steph that I promised my bf that I wouldn't eat with them anymore because of kenny, becasue I don't want to lose my bf, but i like sitting with her, she is one of my best friends, and lunch is really the on'y time I have to talk to her. What do you think I should do about all of this? I want to keep my bf but I also want to eat lunch with my friends, help...
Oh and I am also 13/f if that helps at all, and don't tell me that I am to young to fall in love because there is no age limit on it.
Thanks..
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Keep eating your lunch with your friends.
There are acceptable levels of jealously, and then there are unacceptable levels of jealously. If your boyfriend seriously intends to dump you the next time you hug another guy and thinks that you not hanging out with your friends will solve this problem, that is wildly UNACCEPTABLE.
Your message to your boyfriend is all wrong. You are being so apologetic gives him the idea that there was something wrong going on between you and Kenny and that his reaction to it was okay. There wasn't. So stop acting like there was.
Stop apologizing and say this instead: "Nothing happened, or will happen between me or any other guy. I want to be with you so I'm always going to choose you. However, I am going to hug my friends and hang out with them. You can talk to me about your feelings and I will always respect them, but I can't compromise my friendships on baseless jealously."
Watch out for any person who makes you feel guilty when you shouldn't and who tries to isolate you from your friends.
And for goodness sake tell Derek to stop playing the middleman, it isn't helping, and send your boyfriend to talk to you if there is a problem.
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i think you should try reasoning with him once more and explain to him again that the hug ment nothing, and also tell him that its your only time to spend with your friend...if he still says you cant sit with them then i think its time to break up, i know its hard, but any guy that tries to take you away from your friends doesnt deserve you...just dont let a guy ruin your relationship with your friends trust me, you will end up losing your friends, then once you and your boyfriend break up (im not saying that would be soon) you wouldnt have any friends to go back to. good luck :]
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I think you should tell your bf that the hug meant nothing you were just trying to be friendly ; and that you want to sit with your friend at lunch ; and that he has to trust you when you say you love him ; and dont let a little hug ruin a great relationship
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