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What should I do (this is long)
Okay, I have a wonderful boyfriend. He's caring, nice, he always makes me feel so happy and he always cheers me up. I like him a lot. And, obviously, he likes me too. We are both really happy =) One problem. I have a feeling a friend might want things to go bad. She likes him, I can tell..she flirts with him a lot. He never really flirts back. I've talked to my friend about it, I told her to stop because the flirting is getting out of hand and it hurts me. She was totally understandable (after the SECOND time I said something). Now, she completely shuts down when he comes around. She stops talking and looks at the floor when he puts his arms around me. I know she's uncomfortable especially when I'm around. I have a feeling she doesn't like me anymore. She is in his history class and she goofs around with him. I've talked to him about it and he says that he's tried to get her to stop, but she won't. She told me the other day that she doesn't like to be in long relationships (so even if things don’t work out between my boyfriend and me...she'd most likely go after him and break his heart) I don't know what to do about her. I mean, I'm the kind of person who loves to see everyone happy, smiling, laughing. I can't stand people upset! My closest friends always tell me "hey girl, relax. You can't please everyone" I know they are right, but I can't help seeing her like this. She likes my boyfriend, I mean... a lot! She is always sending him IM of hugs n kisses and crap. (Note: he NEVER sends anything like that back. I completely trust him.) Okay, so basically, I’m hurting her, right? I’m definitely not breaking up with my boyfriend because she wants him because well...all that would do is break two hearts and fix one. She isn’t a close friend of mine, and I haven’t known her long. I like her and all but why does she want ME to be in pain? Because real friends don’t do this. She flirts still (and I understand that’s hard to control sometimes) but you would think she would try and control herself at least a little bit!?!? She isn’t only flirting with my boyfriend, she flirts with everyone’s boyfriend...and even more guys. So, I shouldn’t really worry about it then, because it’s normal for her...?? But it does bother me, I’ve talked to her about it but she doesn’t really listen. I realize this is really long, but I’m not sure what to do anymore. Talking hasn’t done anything and my closest friends are ready to freak out on her. I don’t want that. I care way too much! I’m told that all the time! I’m a bit of ‘weird-o’ you could say because I don’t even want my enemies to get hurt (I don’t have very many, but I still don’t like seeing anyone get hurt). So here is where I need help. What should I do about my so called ‘friend’? Any advice is helpful!
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Well it sounds like you are in a bvit of a bind, but hopefully I can provide some words of advice that may steer you in the right direction. You can't control who other people are going to like, as I know you aren't, but you do have to be aware of it. It is good that you confronted the girl and tried to handle the situation. It is also good that you and your boyfriend have a healty and trustfilled relationship you can discuss this with. Not everyone is going to like you. She probably does feel uncomfortable around you and still likes your boyfriend and isn't getting what she wants so it is frustrating to her. Just tell your boyfriend to completely ignore her, instead of just telling her to stop. Also, you can try two other things. You can also completely ignore the girl which might make her upset, but may work. Or, you can try to do a good deed and introduce her to a guy that you know. Maybe if she has an interest in someone else or someone else has an interest in her, she will back off. Either way, know that you are a good person and this type of thing happens often. You and your boyfriend should go on with your relationship, becuase in the end it just comes down to you two. :)
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