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umm talking to people
15/f
okay so when im listening to someone thats close to me like a friend or teacher or something i get really self conscious to look them in the eye, my eyes kinda mist over and i stop making eye contact (shifty eyes) then i get really uncomfortable and i cant wait for them to stop talking, and i think it reflects in my body language because i can hear the other person getting kind of uncomfortable too.
this is weird cause i never used to experience this problem until this school year.
what things should i do/think to stop this? and what is the usual pattern that the eyes follow when listening to someone?
thanks!
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I have a similar, yet different, problem. My eyesight is horrible and my depth perception almost non-existant, so eye-contact is tough to maintain.
I learned a long time ago that I could make people think I was looking into thier eyes by looking at thier nose or lips insteed. Or better still, by looking at them, but letting my eyes shift out of focus so I'm sort of gazing at a point beyond thier head. I have to say, this helped my shyness too, and in stressful situations I stil use the trick of staring through people's heads.
Also, remember to breath. It's amazing how much better and calmer you will feel if you just remember to breath deeply and slowly.
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i get what you mean, the other person knows your paying attention with your eye contact so if you get distracted of something just return your eyes and look at them it shows intrest even thought you arent intrested.
hope i helped =)
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