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Ok so I have a "friend" who lives like 8 hours away. We've been friends but i just recently moved and now we've been talking. We are like bf/gf but not actually. He and his chick friend[she has a bf] came to my place to visit so we could go to a theme park a few weeks ago and he slept with me and she slept on the couch. And we had sex[i'm 19and he's the second person i've ever had sex with..and i'm his 3rd]. They only stayed a day and then they had to go back home. I expected that we would finally be official but he told me that he was confused and he didn't know if it would work..he's also going into the army in like a month.And then the other day we talked and he still said that he really really likes me alot but he doesn't know how it will work. And so, but he still calls me baby and still acts like we are b/f and g/f but theoretically we are nothing so i'm soooo confused...HELP
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He is stringing you along in order to be able to sleep with you until he goes into the army. Then once he is gone, he has an out to say "I'm far away, it won't work." and then he is able to wash his hands of it. I would say make a clean break from it before you become anymore emotionally attached than you already are. Guys will say and act in any way necessary to sleep with a girl. Like the other answer said, cynical...but for the most part, true.
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At the risk of sounding cynical, it sounds like he wants to sleep with you again before he goes into the Army. He knows you like him and care for him, and he thinks the displays of affection will convince you to sleep with him again.
As a veteran of several failed long-distance relationships, I can tell you that they're tough. It takes a deep level of commitment, and you spend a lot of time feeling like you're on hold. You have to be deeply in love, and even then that isn't enough sometimes.
If he's going into military service, he'll be gone for a very long time, especially if he's deployed to a war zone. (Current TODs are as long as 22 months) If I were in your place, I wouldn't get into anything serious with this guy. Brief flings can be sweet, so if that's the path you want to take, make sure that he knows that it's over when he leaves.
Yes, I sound cynical and unromantic. But the situation sounds like a recipe for severe heartache. If that's your thing, then jump in with both feet. Otherwise, drop him like he's hot and move on.
Hope this helps.
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