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ive been sad and my bestfriend......
so the last couple of days i have felt really sad and i dnt understadn why, i think it may have something to do with, something that i honestly shouldnnt care about, and its her life so.... anyways so my bestfriend basically fell in love with this guy for like a year straight she basically obsessed over him the ywent out for like a month but didnt do anything they looked like they were just friends i mean i have a relationship better with my friends the nthey did going out you couldnt even tell they liked eachother.....so she broke up with him, after a while she forgot about him but that was after a year and a half, and she moved on you know everything was good the entire summer last couple months of school first couple months of school this year and now she tells me she lieks him again!!!!!! and it makes me mad because i watched for a straigh year get hurt and it hurt me to watch this happen i love her to death she is my bestfriend and i just cant stand to be around and watch her do this to her self again. she doesnt understan where im coming from when i tell her to, and thing is ive talked to her baout it before so i need other advise instead of tell her how you feel.........she even wrote down things she wanted in a boy and none of those are him even she knows it cause she has said it to me before. pleaseeeee help me
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She knows how you feel. There's not much else you can tell her. What she does with her life really is up to her. If it turns out to be a mistake again, then you just be there for her. You don't have to like the guy she likes or even agree with her, but you are her friend and whilst you may only want the best for her, you have to let her make her own decisions.
If she wants to be with this guy, let her be with him. Just support her when she needs it and don't tell her 'I told you so'.
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You can't help who you like. It doesn't matter if they aren't exactly what you think she should want in a guy. She can't help it. It's just the way things are you: you don't choose who you like. It just happens and telling her that the guy she likes is just going to hurt her won't make her stop liking him, it has to happen on her own. Been there done that. If we could choose who we liked and just move on then no one would be sad over a breakup because they would just choose not to like the girl anymore. I think you should just support her and be there for her when it falls apart. Maybe tell her that you understand that she likes him, but it's best to wait to make a move. You can try and advise her on how to approach the situation, but trying to convince her not to like a guy is nearly impossible and its not you, its just how our hearts are. We like who we like and we can't choose when we stop or start liking someone (whether it is again or not). Key Thing: Be there for her. That's all you can really do other than advise her not to take action on this relationship.
Hope that helped =)
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i think you should let her make her own decisions. maybe she feels that this time is right. she knows you are here for her and thats all that matters, you cant help who you fall in love with naye. and im not going to let myself get hurt again. you need to stop trying to protect me. i will be fine.
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Well you cant do much some people just need to see how things go and wont take your word for it. She is just going to have to find out the hard way all you can do is try to talk to her and reason with her.
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