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he was my other half
I'm having a difficult time dealing with a horrible breakup. It happened over time so it wasn't a quick heartbreak; more slow and painful. I lost my motivation for school and basically for life. My biggest fear is not being able to find someone better. I'd describe him as my perfect type and irreplaceable. How do I deal with this? It feels like I lost a huge part of myself that I can't get back. (F/19)
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Breakups are never easy, especially when you feel you've lost something special. It's okay to feel crappy and low for a while, but try not to let it interfere with your life. You have so much to live for. I know this is difficult for you, but there are things you can do to take your mind off it, and to help you get over your breakup.
- Hang out with friends. Talk to a good, understanding friend. Sometimes getting things off your chest can make all the difference.
-You say this is affecting your motivation for school. When you are in class, or when you are studying, shut off any distractions and focus all your attention on the subject at hand. Sometimes this takes a few deep breaths, a good study environment, and a reminder to focus.
- Whatever you do, do NOT try to take the easy way out...shop "therapy," and things like that, are only temporary fixes. Nothing superficial can help heal something deep.
- Remind yourself that although he may have been a great match for you, there are so many guys out there. As much as you may hate hearing this, there really are plenty of fish in the sea. But having a good catch takes plenty of patience and luck! In time, you will meet someone else who will make you feel like you.
-And remember...you're not alone! Lots of girls and guys feel the same exact way at one time or another. Keep your head up! You may feel sad at times, and that's only natural. But these things pass.
Feel better :)
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Break ups are very very hard. I'm going to be honest, it's going to hurt for a while. You're going to need time to get over it. I've found what makes breakups, or tough times in general, a lot better are friends and hobbies.
For example:
Hanging out with your friends is a great way to help deal with your sadness. They can help take your mind off things, and make you happy when you're with them. Do something fun with your close friends, and tell them not to talk about your ex at all. Go bowlig, mini golfing, ice skating, shopping, see a movie. Just do something you all enjoy, and have a good time doing.
Also, take up a hobby! For me, it's writing and running. Writing is great, because you can get all your feelings out and nobody even has to know. You can say basically anything you want, but you don't have to show a single person.
Running is great to. You get a rush when you're running, and you forget whats going on around you.
Music is a pretty good escape, too. Find songs that go with your situation, and listen to them.
Inbox me if you want some songs =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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