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home problems
Me and my family are having some home problems right now..my dad left my mom 3 years ago, but there still married. This christmas will be 4 years since he left. He doesn't give my mom enough money, and if he does, thats only enough to pay the house payment, then she has no money to buy food, also, she has 2 kids, and I'm the oldest and my brother is only 10. My dad is so...I don't know what to say, he gets paid every other friday, right? Well, one friday he'll give my mom 600-700$ or less, and 500$ is the house payment, and then she either has 100$ or 200$ left, yeah, thats only a little bit of food, but she has bills, too, like the phone bill, internet, drug store, etc. She gets social security cause she has one arm, that has nerve damage, but thats only for the bills, not for me and my brother. It use to go to us, we use to be perfect, we had the money when my dad was here, now, my moms late on the house, and late with alot of bills, and we can't even buy anything anymore! Our house is really bad, we had a leak, and the insurance still haven't gave us our money yet, but we're calling them, and hopefully they will. This hurts so bad, but my mom is getting a divorce soon. Why is she finally getting one? She didn't have the money back then, and I don't think my dad couldv'e filed for one, since he left, but still. Should I pray? A few nights ago I prayed, I said "God please help us get some help, let us get a new home, and my mom get a divorce so she can start over and have a happy life." I'm going to pray everynight now, and hopefully we'll get some help. My mom NEEDS to start over, my dad kills her everytime he comes by, and now, he barely comes and sees us anymore. Only when he HAS to, or gets paid. He doesn't even care about me, and he already made my mom have a stroke and he thought it was funny, and he made fun of her, because the doctor at the hospital asked her questions, and she said the wrong one, and my dad laughed. That makes me dislike him even more. Should I sign my famly up for that show "Extreme Home Makeover" you know, on ABC. We are having problems, and we really do need it. I can't invite friends over cause it's so bad. We really need help with are home, and get my mom caught up with her bills, and our home. We can't lose this house, we'll have no where to go..
Sorry this was long, I just need to know if there's any help out there, and I don't know who to ask.
Thanks to anyone who reads this and replies!
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Praying is always a good idea, dont give up hope quite yet. Theres no harm in trying to sign up for the extreem home make over show, although there are no garenties that they will help, they usualy do larger cases... like helping someone who has cancer or had a house torn appart in a huricain. But at least you could say that you tried.
Something you did not mention was wether or not someone els was working in the house... maybe you could get a part time job if you are old enough... help out a little. If not you could just try and make things less stressfull on your mom, tryand help out with some household chores that she might not be able to get to at times... avoid possible arguments with your brother... small things can make a big diffrence.
As for beeing embaressed its normal, but just try to be proud of what you do have. Alot of people would be happy to have what you do.
A roof over your head, a mother and brother who cares, and even a father whos acctualy paying something to your mother. Some fathers dont pay a cent.
Try to forgive him, he too could be going trew alot that you dont know about.
Keep your chin up!
all we get better soon, just keep them prayers going.
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Ok first I have to say God will help you even if it doesn't seem like it. I will pray for you too even if you don't know me all in all you are my sister(or brother) and i shall do what i can to help you. No offense but Extreme Home Makeover is more about helping people that have had bad things happen to there family but still have lots of love and help others and a divorce isn't really like that even tho you do have those other problems. If you trust God everything will be ok even when it looks like he's nto helping you, he really is. And i know it seems hopeless, but things WILL get better and you will learn much too. Stay close with your family and try not to be embarassed. You don't have to invite your friends over because i understand but be proud of what your mother has done for you guys considering everything. If you have more questions or just need someone to talk to send me a note in my inbox. I will help you all i can. :D ♥♥♥ HiChick ♥♥♥
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