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Is it okay
for me to be upset/mad about this?
This girl has had a crush on my boyfriend for many months now. On and off I suppose. :/ They both have a class together and both are friends. She was flirting with him a lot and started to bite him.
I find her kind of immature, she still acts like she's in 8th grade [she's a freshmen] She even bit my boyfriend when she was with some guy. She also bites two of my guy friends.
So the first time, She bit his arm and left a large purple circle. Also left some teeth marks near his hand. It bothered me I guess and he figured it out, so he said he would talk to her about it.
but today, I saw him with various bite marks on his hands, arms.. 2 large bruises on one shoulder and another on the other and a teeth marks on his back too. i don't think he's cheating on me. i trust him. i know he has no time for her out of school or i would have heard it from his mom. and, i have many friends at HIS school that would have told me any strange behavior, you know? it's just lately, she's been all over him in a nonchalant way.
and he doesn't know how to tell her to stop since they are like best friends.
since he doesnt know how to tell her, he's planning to ignore her..
but i doubt it will help.. so any advice for me?
i want to write her a message over like myspace or something, since i don't see her in person. what should i say? i'm afraid she will make me look like the bad guy :/ i'm not the type to say "Fu*k off" She can hug him and yeah, but biting/leaving hickeys.. is just as bad as kissing to me. it's almost worse.. because there's proof.. or maybe i'm just making a big deal out of this.
I kinda feel bad for getting mad about this.
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i would just leave her a message being like "yea its kind of bothering me that your biting my boyfriend and i saw marks on his shoulder, arms, hands, and back!? i'm not trying to be a bitch or anything but its bothering me and i dont care if you guys are friend just stop biting him? k thanks.." and i think your boyfriend should try pushing her to stop more if my guy friend was biting me i wouldnt feel bad telling him to stop
and you have NO reason to feel bad for getting bad
i would too deffinatly
hope i helped!
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If you interfer in this, you will the bad guy hun.
If you know he isn't cheating, and you know she does this to a lot of people, it sounds to me like what you now know is that she is just a biter.
I have friends who are 'biters' and will playfully nip anyone.
I have friends who are 'huggers' and will hug anyone tightly and affeactionatly.
I have friends who are 'kissers' and will peck thier friends on the checks or lips without a worry.
Some people have different levels of comfort with such things. They percieve them in different ways and they have different behavoirs.
If your boyfriend doesn't like her behavoir, it's his job to speak up, not yours.
You have no right and no reason to try and confront her. This might be a big deal for you and your boyfriend as you two talk about it. It might become a big deal between your boyfriend and this girl as he trys to talk to her about it. But it's got nothing to do with you and her.
Stick to dealing with your boyfriend. Encourage him to be honest with both you and her. Be upfront about your annoyance, but remember that she is his problem, she isn't your problem, unless you strike the first blow.
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Hi well this girl sounds like a freak man I mean really she bites people whats wrong with her.Well I would tell this girl to back of your boy and to leave him alone or else.Good luck:]
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I think you have a right to be upset, I would be very upset. If your boyfriend can't find a way to tell her, then you can try telling her and see how that goes. I hardly think it's going to help, really, but you can give it a shot. I think the only way she'll top is if your boyfriend tells her to back off and means it, and if she tries anything, he'll stop her and tell her he has a girlfriend, etc.
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