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Girlfriend keeps bringing up ex-wife,why?
I would like to forget my ex-wife, but my girlfriend keeps bringing her up;even though she knows it upsets me and I don't want to talk about her - I'd rather just forget about her all together. Example. we passed a add for the add with a girl with big breast,I said dang. then whe said I have a comment but it's gonna get you mad. I said then don't say it. She then told me that I already knew what big boobs felt like since my ex had big boobs. My ex-is short, fat and ugly. new girlfriend is short, thin and beautiful. she turns heads everywere she goes. Why does she keep bringing my ex up in conversations? she said because she doesn't understand why I don't want to talk about her? please advise. we are all about 35's uears in age.
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She sounds insecure.
What she seems be asking you for, is constant reasurrence that you like her more then your ex.
Call a spade a spade, and ask her calmly to stop.
Sit her down when you two are having a fine time togeather and tell her this (if it's true)
"I have no feelings for my ex-wife. I rather not talk about her, or think about her agian and upsets me when you bring her up. I want to be with YOU. Not her. I want to talk about YOU and think about YOU. Not her. I would appercaite if you would really try not to bring her up. If you are feeling insecure about something, talk to me about it, but don't drag her into it."
If the ex-wife comes up agian gently remind your girlfriend that you don't want to talk about her. Otherwise ignore the comment. It must be getting some sort of reaction from you if she keeps doing it. If you stop reacting and insist she talks to you if she concerns straight up, rather then dragging up your past, she will probably stop.
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It's very possible that she uses it as a self-esteem booster, like a "You have me now, I'm better than she was, and I want to be reminded of it," type of thing. I know it's kind of confusing, but girls like to know how much more they are to guys compared to others.
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Ok, I'm going to shoot it to you straight.
She needs to either A) stop bringing up your ex-wife, or B) move on to a guy who likes to talk about his ex-wife.
I think it could possibly be that she is maybe jealous that you were married to someone else before, but never the less, her behavior is unacceptable.
How can you move on with your life if she keeps wanting to dredge through your past? You can't.
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