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rekindling love
Me and my babys dad have been apart since july 10th. I hadnt seen him up until September 8th when he was calling me in the early morning even though i was with someone starting Mid August. Before then I hadnt heard from him. Our son is 8 months old and he doesnt bother to come by and see our son , his only child, but his mother, dad and siblings live right around the corner and he visits them. None of them try to call or come see my baby.I dont like the guy im with because he is 10 years older and boring i miss my babys dad even though weve had vulgar words passed to each other and fighting when he wanted me i still wanted him but i didnt want him to mess up who i was talking to and be with whomever he was with Does he still love us?
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Love twords a baby-im sure you know-is infinite. Honestly, I don't know how he couldn't. Some people have their own pains and demons to work out... And maybe he's doing that now. Maybe you guys having a baby was too much for him to handle- unplanned, unprepared, and he wasn't ready to slow down and have a family and 'duties' yet. Although you have much love for him and he's your baby's father, is it the BEST THING for you both? You have to weigh the pros and cons here because this could be a big deal.
You don't want your child growing up around yelling, arguing, and parents that don't love eachother. I'm going to be honest here sweetie.. Don't you think that if he loved you he'd be with you right now. ESPECIALLY in your time of need?? Your a single mother, and that's hard stuff, babe. I congradulate you on being so strong and not breaking down on your baby. I want you to know that this guy in my personal opinion doesn't deserve such a sweet person. I know he's your baby's dad... And that's a hard and big thing to pass up having, but if you guys don't get along....you just really don't want to mess up your child's perception of 'love'... It could stick with him/her forever.
So my advice is weigh it out, if it really could work and your 100% for it, that's your decision, but if you decide against it, I still say he should visit regularly. What father doesn't care to see their child?? Also, with the guy you're with.. Ask yourself WHY you're with him and if its worth it. You say he's boring, and that's not a good sign if your mate is boring. He's older than you by a long shot, and he may not be into the things you are. You deserve HAPPINESS.
Goodluck, and best wishes to you and your baby, Mom!
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