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Who to sit with?
I have two groups of people that I like to sit with at lunch- my best friend and a bunch of our guy friends, and these other girls, that I only met this year (I just started high school, and they went to the other feeder school). The problem is, my best friend gets all huffy if I don't sit with her, and then doesn't talk to me for a day or two. But if I sit with her all the time, then I'm afraid that my friendship will fail with the other girls, since I haven't known them very long (my best friend and I have been bff's since third grade.) So, what do I do?
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Why don't you take your best friend to sit with you at the other table? Or you could sit at a bigger table and sit with everyone! If that doesn't work then talk to your bestfriend and see what her problem is and why she's being so jealous, then sit with her every other day. If she doesn't like it then that's her problem and she is just going to have to accept your new friends! Good luck :)
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You need to talk to your best friend about this.
You guys have been friends for a while, so I honestly don't know why she's getting so upset over this. My best friend doesn't care if I sit with someone else for a couple of days. She'll ask why and if I'm honest & say that I wanna get to know new people & make more friends, she's fine with that & doesn't really care.
Your friend is being really immature. She can't expect you to sit with her everyday for the rest of your life. Tell her you love sitting with her, but you wanna see what else is out there & you wanna make new friends. Tell her that when you do make new friends; she'll still be your best. You'd never drop her for somebody else just like you wouldn't drop somebody else for her.
If she can't seem to understand that, then I suggest you sit with your new friends for a few days so you can figure out what you need to do. I hope this helps; & good luck!
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I can understand wanting to branch out with new friends, but if it will damage your friendship with your best friend, is sharing lunch with the other's worth that? Then again, you can't have a friend who is going to throw fits in order to keep you all to herself, either. That isn't fair to you.
Have you tried sitting with the different groups every other day so all have a fair turn with sharing their lunch hour with you?
You need to sit down with your friend and tell her your feelings on this, and listen to hers. Try to do this privately, not at school among friends and classes. Invite her over for a sleep over? Ensure her that though you want to make friends with these other girls, she is still your best friend.
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