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A sad friend: how to help?
I'm 20, and my friend is 19. We're both girls.
I live in a house with a bunch of other university students. I'm sharing a room with my fiancee, S, whose best friend G also lived in the house, until recently.
G is an officer in the reserves (as is S), and decided to put his studies on hiatus for a year and a half to go and work in Afghanistan. Enter A, my friend.
G just proposed to A this summer, because he knew he'd be gone for a long time. She's living in the same house with us. She actually managed to convince S not to go with G to Afghanistan, for which I am incredibly grateful.
Since G left for his training, A has been incredibly depressed. She won't leave her room, she barely eats, and she's always crying. We were watching the news the other day, and there was a report on a suicide bomber killing a Canadian soldier, and she burst into tears and was inconsolable all day.
I'm starting to get really worried. G has only been gone for a month, and he has 17 months left to go!
Is there anything I can do to help her? I'm already putting a limit on how cuddly and couply my fiancee and I are in front of her, and we try to feed her when we can (we're students on a budget)
I would really appreciate advice from someone who has been in a situation where a loved one is overseas with the military!
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I have a friend whose hubby is in Iraq. She gets some great support from other wives and girlfriends who have loved ones in the military and overseas.
I'm not sure the name of the group, but if you contact a local base I'm sure they will tell you who you can contact for more information. Just ask them If there is a local support group for family and friends of soldiers overseas.
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I have never been in this situation, but I know what it's like to worry about someone's well-being who you are unable to see. It sounds to me like you are already doing the best for your friend that you possibly can. Just make sure she knows she can talk to you when she needs to and keep being supportive. Good luck.
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