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This is going to sound really cheesey for a while, but I really like this guy at school. I'm sixteen and I've never had an actual boyfriend...or even a kind of boyfriend. I have always been way too shy to even approach the person I am interested in. I told someone else that I was had feelings for them ONCE and I was "rejected", I later found out that he was gay. Anyway, this person I like now is really sweet and laughs at my stupid jokes and I could really see us as a couple. The only thing is, I'm friends with a whole group of girls who are preitter, funnier and more talented than me. I'm pretty good in all those catagories, its just that when you talk to the others, I kind of look crappy by comparison. I just want to know:
1. what I can do to stand out in his mind?
2. How can I start a conversation with him without getting all blushy and weird? (topics, etc.)
3. Should I start flirting right away or just become his friend first?
Thank you so much.
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I would just become his friend first. Some people can pull off flirting and others don't do so well.
Its much easier to let it come naturally, and that is much easier if you really know each other. You will stand out his mind once he starts enjoying talking to you. Try these web searches.
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**Rejection shouldn't scare you and put you off asking in the future. It's a lesson in life. Most people will go through it at some point. It's experience.
**You shouldn't compare yourself to the other girls. I know it's hard, but all it does is make you feel inadequate. Everyone is different - which is an amazing thing. You should focus on your best features.
**To stand out, you should be confident. What this means is, FORGET feeling about looking "crappy in comparison" to your friends. Make eye contact, smile.
**You could start flirting now, but nothing too bold and drastic. Keep confident, relax, let your true colours show and allow him to see who you really are. Listen to him, use body language.
A way to find out if he is comfortable with you being around him is to invade his personal space. Stand close to him. If he doesn't edge away, it's a good sign. Touch his arm whilst talking/laughing etc with him. If he's not weirded out, it's also a good sign.
I'm sure Google will have LOTS of flirting tips and ways to strike up a conversation. Thinking of topics isn't anything to worry about. First, do the basics, such as hello, how are you etc and move onto something relevant to do with the situation you're in.
I wish you the best of luck. :)
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