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Friends Delema
My bff is acting strange lately. She used to always want to hang out with me and our other friends but now, she attempts to sit with the "popular" kids and ignores us in the hallways. But as soon as we leave school she's like "wanna go to my house?" and we don't want to hurt her feelings by saying no. so we say yeah. But then once we get to her house she starts gossiping, which we(me and other friends) don't like. She talks about people. and sometimes we wonder why she does. She is turing into one of them(populars) it is getting old.
We know that the populars don't like her at all cause she's constantly saying "oh i am fat" and "my hips are HUGE" and no one likes that. So she is pretty much trying to become something that she probly will never be and we are getting anoyed.
Well my question is how can i explain to her that what she's doing is anoying us? i mean i tried telling her that she was annoying us but she says that "your a dork! you don't know what cool is! and what i am doing is the definition of cool" not even kidding she said that exact thing to me. And to our other friends and now they(friends) don't wanna be around her!!
What can i do before she loses all her REAL friends forever?
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okay, well i am an expert at this subject b/c a year back my absolute best friend tried to be one of the populars and succeded.she completely ditched me, and became one of the mean, snotty popular girls. When you friend says "oh, i am fat" that doesn't mean that the populars don't like her at all. You need to remeber not to push her away any more, sit her down and explain to her gently exactaly what you explained in this question. tell her how much she means to you, and don't try to act like it doesn't bother you. Don't pitty her either, that will make her sooooooo mad. just try to see things the way she does.after a month with the popular girls my best friend came back to me, and apologized, and now we are closer than we ever were. Reason with her and remind her that your friendship is the most important thing
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Try telling her that you really care for her and that those kind of people who start rumors are not the kind to hang out with. And that if she really wants to be cool then she should hang with her real friends (you and others)
Sincerely, Sami Q.
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tell her straight up. simple as that. find a way to get it through her thick head. if she still acts like that, she's not worth the effort.
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