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Two Problems - Size and quantity.
I have two problems and have tried talking to friends about it but they don't recognise it as a problem and simply laugh it off.
I have a very petite girlfriend and our relationship has recently become sexual. I am, how to put this tactfully? 'Well endowed' and penetrative sex for her is too painful, even with lots of stimulation and foreplay or lubrication. It doesn't seem to be a condition with her because she has not had this problem with previous boyfriends.
We have tried oral and manual stimulation as a way to get around this but I also cum a great deal when I orgasm and she finds this difficult, messy and 'disgusting' to cope with, her upbringing is a rather strict and traditional Indian family background and she feels unable to do such things without feeling guilty, or to cope with the results when she does.
Everything else in the relationship is wonderful but I am getting more and more sexually frustrated as we can't really get beyond kissing and cuddling without it causing problems.
Nobody takes this problem seriously and I'm literally crying myself to sleep many nights with frustration and can't think of any solutions, and don't want to break up with her over something like this. Please help!
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ok hun they make sex kits that have different size toys you can use to build up to your size it will take a while so dont get impatient if shes not comfortable with you it will be a longer journey. there are many other things you can do for each other, while having oral sex wear a condom that way it wont be messy, she can also go down on you until your close then finish with the hand, it may take some practice but you can let her know when your about to peak, and you both will be satisfied, as for the upbringing, that could take years to get out of her head, if ever parents voices are hard to get out of your mind. you sound very caring, dont cry anymore everything will work out trust me ive been there. lots of luck to you both BRIE
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Hello,
I think you guys have written before, and even if you have not, I implore you. YOu must go see a sex therapist for this problem. You realize that a woman's vagina can accomodate giving birth. You may be well endowed, but could you be larger than the head of a 7 lb baby? Your statements about her upbringing are a clue to the problem. A sex therapist will speak very frankly to both of you, and even to you individually, about the problems. They are NOT unsurmountable. And you are not alone. Other couples have had the same problems. I don't know where you live, and I do know that there are not sex therapist located everywhere, but most bit cities have them and they do a wonderful job. They are very sensitive to peoples feelings and needs. They will understand the dilema that both you and your lover is facing. REally if you don't want to break up, and you say that you don't, you must seek out advise from experts who have a PROVEN track record in this area. I wish you both luck in the future.
Michele
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