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un-inviting the director?
14/f I just got done doing a musical at a local teens summer theatre program and I got pretty close with my fellow cast members. I recently organized a group of kids from the show to take a subway out to the big city to go see a play together. Three people replied and said they wanted to go. Those three people are freshman, like me. However, my mom said needed an adult to supervise us once we get to the big city...meaning, to go see the play with us and walk us back and forth to the subway station. My director lives in the big city and he's the one who suggested the idea in the first place, so naturally I invited him to come along instead of a parent.
I was still a bit iffy about inviting the director, it might seem kind of awkward to have him in with a group of friends and people might think it spoils the fun. However, we still need an adult to come with us anyways, so it might as well be someone that everyone knows, right.......?
Anyhow, after I made my arrangements with the director, another girl in the cast emailed me and said she could come. I just discovered that she just became legally an adult, and we don't need the director to come because she's already technically an adult. However, I'm not really sure what I should do about the director. I'm sure the other kids would rather not have a much-older person around, yet I'm worried it would be rude to un-invite my director, especially because I know he had big insecurities about whether the cast liked him or not. What would you guys do?
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Just because your friend is *legally* an adult, doesn't mean your mom will be satasfied with that qualification. Before you even consider speaking to the director, you should ask your mom if your 'adult' friend is an acceptable adult to her.
Being eighteen, or twenty-one for that matter, only makes you an adult in the eyes of the law, take it from a twenty-something, you are still a kid in a lot of ways at twenty-one.
If she is acceptable to your mother, then you could at least tell the director that another adult as appeared on the scene, so if he was insecure or uncomfortable about comming, he could back out if he wanted too. Don't uninvite him, just offer him a way to gracefully bow out IF HE WANTS TOO. If he is excited and wants to go, then just be happy to have one more excited play-goer in your group!
You could also suggest to your director he could bring a geust or another adult with him, so he has someone adult to speak too.
Just becareful and make it clear you happy to have him and only want him to have a happy and comfortable evening too.
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You can't un-invite him. It was his idea and that would be extrememly rude of you to do. Also, he already thinks the cast hates him, this would just make him think it was true.
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I would keep the director in the group. it has a lot of benefits actually. Although the one girl is "technically an adult", she's still young. she might not know her way around as well.
if you keep the director you would:
-have a local that could help you around.
-have parents not worry about where you are.
-get to know the director better so you get good parts in future shows.
-so you're not rude...
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