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Best friend no longer friend?
So I'm 15/f, going into 10th grade & I feel silly about asking this question, but it's bothering me and I have to now.
I have 2 best friends and I love them both equally. Well, one of them is a guy, whom we will call Bob. Well, Bob and I have been best friends since 8th grade & I love him, even though he's kind of a blah person. He's cuddly and funny and just awesome to be around. I don't know. He's just really easy to be comfortable around? But he doesn't like many people so it's kind of ironic in a way. But anywhos, he's the type of person that has a best friend one year and another the next year. And I guess I kind of "pushed it" keeping him as my best friend for 2 years. Yeah, lame, I know. Anywhos, he and I don't really do much outside of school. He just plays video games all day long and I just study, study, study, play violin, and blah. Well, I really love him and I don't want to lose him but I feel like I've already lost him. There's this other guy, whom we'll call Jo. Well, Jo is bi/gay [I don't know. He keeps on going back and forth every week. Hard to keep track of] and Bob is gay & they have that little link there. And Jo is much more outgoing and leads a sort of hedonistic life and is pretty much more interesting than I am. Haha. But, yeah. I feel like I'm completely losing Bob to Jo and Bob's the type of person that kind of forgets a person when another interesting person comes by? But anywhos, I can tell that Jo and Bob are pretty close now & have hung out a few times during the summer [without me]. I'm afraid to lose Bob as a friend. I mean, I wouldn't mind much if I lost him as a best friend. But I do mind a lot if I might lose him as a friend. Ahh! What do I do? Please don't say talk to him. He doesn't talk much and we're not very good with "serious" talking. And hanging out is pretty much pointless since I don't have much time to hang out during school.
Thanks in advance!
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Here's an idea: Try and become friends with Jo. Then, it can be a threesome of friends. He won't have to ditch you if you're friends with his friends. Also, Jo might not want to just ditch you. Give it a shot.
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Its going to be hard to keep him as a friend if you two can't talk...i mean about this issue.
Maybe when you're talking to him, joke around and be like "Bob! I never get to see you anymore..where have you been!" Or ask him to go to the movies or mall with you. And when you're there tell him how much you miss how you used to hang out everyday and be best friends.
I really think you should try to talk to him about this. If you can't be serious, say something like "Bob I feel like im losing youu. what the EFffffff" or however you two usually joke around.
I know this isn't the best adivice, but good luck.
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