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once a cheater, always a cheater?
I haven't had any longterm relationships but in 2 of my relationships I've cheated on the guy I was with. Last winter I cheated on someone and I told him how sorry I felt and then just broke it off with him and I've talked to him like twice since. And this summer I was with someone and I ended up deciding I didn't like him and then I cheated on him twice..with two different guys and broke up with him right afterward without telling him I cheated on him. I feel soooo horrible. I had been drinking all three times but there's no way I can give up drinking. I have been drinking a lot less lately but I'm just worried about my future. What if I cheat on my husband and it ruins my family and I have to have a messy divorce and screw up my kids?? Am I always going to be a cheater, even though I feel absolutely horrible??????
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First congrats on drinking less! I'm sure you can give up drinking, you just need the right help. It is really important that you stop, and I'm sure you already know that it can mess up people's lives, so I'm not going to lecture you anymore on that.
Congratulations on another thing too! You have recognized that you have a problem and you want to fix it. That shows that you aren't a bad person.
I think the first thing you need to do when you want to begin a relationship is to make sure that you really do want to be with this person. A lot of times, cheating happens when you aren't happy with the relationship or you want more out of it. Try to get into a relationship that you feel will be fulfilling for you. Get out of it when you don't feel that it is like that anymore. Breaking up is always better than cheating, and it will hurt your partner a lot less in the end.
I don't believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater." You CAN change! You can! And you already took the first step. The next time you feel like cheating, think about how you felt the last time this happened, and how it would affect your partner if he found out.
Good luck, and if you have anymore questions, feel free to write back! :)
Best wishes,
Hannah
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i can't really tell you what to do. But no one can realylanswer this question,its for you to answer.You will have to ask yourself and listen to your heart. If you truely feel that bad then why do you do it over and over again? Also think is the drinking the problem you have with the cheating it could be telling you things in your mind and have control of it.
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