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So complicated
I'm 16/f. Ever since middle school, I've been wishing for a really great guy to come along and like me. And right now, there's finally a guy who I think is interested in me... well, I'm assuming he is because he's been calling me beautiful and hugging me all the time and just acting like he likes me. But whenever I see him, I feel so nervous and awkward and kinda avoid him and idk why! He's all nice to me and I'm standing there freaking out. But other times, I really want to be with him and stuff. Ugh, I've been wishing for a great guy and now there IS one, but it just makes me so nervous and awkward. I bet he's gonna ask me out soon, but I'm so freaked out of having a boyfriend that I'll probably just end up saying no and regretting it.And plus, he got out of a really long relationship with my friend, and she's not over him, so I'd feel like a total jerk if I went out with him because I know she'll feel really upset. He's such a sweet guy and he obviously cares about me, but I just don't know what to do. I've been so upset over not having a boyfriend and when I finally get the opportunity, it's so complicated. I'm so confused right now and it's all I've thought about lately. Please help!
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Sounds to me like the reason you feel so nervous and weird about him is because you like him back! I wouldn't be worried about feeling worried because the nervous feelings are probably a good sign, anyway, considering that it's your first time (I'm guessing?) and it in a way shows that you like him a lot (same with the avoiding. Liking someone can be confusing).
Anyway, while this doesn't really seem to be an issue, it is a problem if him and your friend have a history together. True, if you miss this chance, you will probably regret it, but there will be other guys, other chances. You should talk to your friend about how she feels about this, and the possibility of you and him getting together. If she still isn't over him, and especially if she wants to get back together with him, you should really wait before even considering this guy. It'll be hard but a lot better in the long run since I don't think you'd want to loose a friend over all of this. Besides, once she is over him or at least if you talked to her first it would really prove something about the kind of person you were to her and to yourself, and you'd be in the clear for any sort of messy complicated stuff that could otherwise happen.
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Relax, this happens to a lot of people You really want something, and when you finally have it, you get nervous. It is a normal reaction, so don't worry about it.
It is possible that even though you really like this guy, you aren't ready for a romantic relationship with him yet. Maybe it is best to wait a little bit if he asks you out. He sounds like a sweet guy who really cares about you, so tell him the truth. Tell him that you like him a lot, but just aren't ready to have a boyfriend yet. Tell him that if you were ready, he would be your number one choice.
Adding that you don't want to hurt your friend also is a good idea. It is great that you are thinking about her feelings, and he will notice that. Your friend will also think more highly of you too.
My advice is to wait a little bit to avoid hurting both yourself and your friend. Even though you have been wanting a boyfriend for a long time, if you rush into things you won't be happy. Not to mention your friend may be upset.
Good luck with everything, and write anytime. :)
Hannah
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don't panic, look im a guy and i like this girl so much and shes older than me btw 14/m and shes beautiful and yeah, if this guy cares about you so much you should give him and chance and you need to relax about him and your decision. its going to be ok just need to relaz and listen to your heart. itll be ok
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