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am i doing the right thing?
when people say things about me ; i let it slip and slide. im not that person who starts the drama nor am i that person who takes things to seriously. but i let people get to me sometimes. for example;
my two best friends in the whoolle eentire warrld take advantage of me. i cant stand it. i dont say anything.
like they'll say some jokes about me and say there 'kidding' but , dude. deep inside it hurts. i meen its jokes they say over and over again . i just laugh with it and go on with my day.
i mean im that kind of person. usually things dont affect me. because im that kind of person who really doesnt care what ppl say about me. BUT. this is the first time that it hit me. Am i being too nice to let people to stomp on me? Am i not being taken seriously anymore? i need help! i need a way to stop this. and i know it wont do if i just say ; stop it hurts my feelings; because i alreday did that .
GR. its aggrivating me.
id appreciate it for the help!!
depressed deana
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As complicated as this feels, it is actually extremely simple. Tell your friends, calmly and respectfully, that you are getting hurt by thier jokes. Be specific about the jokes that are getting your goat and ask them to stop.
The only way to be taken seriously is to take yourself seriously and tell them agian! Seriously. No backing down or making light of it.
You have the key part of this down already: you are 'letting' people do this. They aren't physic. They aren't just going to magically figure out that it bothers you and stop. They need to know, and know very very clearly, that it is a problem or else they have no reason to stop.
It's all on you dear. No one else is going to stand up for you. So take yourself seriously and make a serious statment. You don't need to pull them aside. Tell them they messed up right then and there when they do! If you've been clear with them and they still wont stop, don't just sit there and mope or argue with them, walk away from a stituation you don't like.
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I think what you need to do is stand up for yourself more. Since it seems that you have been passive for a long time, people probably got the impression that it's okay for them to say whatever they want to you, because they know you won't say anything back or do anything in return. Who would know this about you better than your best friends? I think you need to seriously tell them how you feel. Tell them that it is enough. That you don't like being the butt of the jokes ALL the time. Once in a while it's okay to poke fun at ourselves and our friends, but you need to make it clear to them that it is too much for you.
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