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Poor Boyfriend - Part 2
If you read my previous question, you'll have some background on my boyfriend. Well now I have a specific situation and need advice. Tomorrow we're supposed to go to an amusement park with some other couples, and I'm the only one who can drive us all. So tonight about midnight, my boyfriend calls and says he doesn't think he's gonna go. Even though his parents said he could, he doesn't want to put that burden on his family, because it's so expensive. And then he goes on and on about how hard his life is, and he can never do anything (which is totally untrue).
So anyway, he said (very sadly) that I could go ahead and go without him if I wanted... or I could stay home and hang out with him. Of course I don't want to go without him cuz I'd be the only person there without a gf/bf. But since I'm the only one who can drive, if I don't go, then no one else can go, and he knows that.
Now, I'm pretty sure he has every intention of going, and he's just saying this to test me and see what I'd do. Will I go have fun while my poor boyfriend sits home alone? Or will I cancel the plans and ruin everyone else's fun, possibly making them mad at me, so I can stand by my wonderful, self-sacrificing boyfriend? arrrghh! I hate having him manipulate me like this. But I also don't want to look like a selfish jerk. What should I tell him?
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you should tell him that you think that him staying home is very thoughtful of him, for thinking of his family, and that you would love to stay with him, but you think that it would be disrespectful to your other friends to tell them you can no longer take them when you already said you would. you have an obligation, and he needs to accept that. tell him you would like to spend the day with him, but you would really feel uncomfortable letting all your friends down like that. if he really wants to spend the day with you he will go, seeing as his parents already said he could go.
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Ok I helped you previously so now I will help you with this! He is definitely just trying to get attention. He wants you to show how ,much you like him and care about him. He's probably just feeling unnapreciated. This does NOT give him permission though to act like some big baby. Tell him you care about him, and it's too bad you won't go because you know he would have a good time, but you are going no matter what and whatever he decides he decides. And I really think you ought to reconsider this relationship if he acts like this! He acts like a baby and you shouldn't have to deal with his games! Tell him your tired of him doing this (explain) and that unless he decides to cut it out you don't want to have this sort (or close or whatever) of relationship with him!
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