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So, im a BIG flirt. and everyone tells me I am. and most people that have heard about me think ihave had sex. most people do actually untill i tell them its just a rumor. in fact, i've never gone past making out. i really want to though. but i dont have a boyfriend and dont really want one, and i still want to be a flirt. so like where could i like hookup with someone? a party or something like that, without having to have a boyfriend?
and truthfully, im nervous, and i am almost positive i will freak out right before i give/recieve oral.
and so how can i overcome the nerves?
thanks in advance =)
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Children like you make the rhetoric of the religious right-wingers in this country more valid, and that makes me very, very sad.
You should get over your nerves by getting and maintaining a relationship where you develop the intimacy to that level over time. Anything else makes you a stupid, irresponsible slut.
A slut (or a manwhore) is girl (or guy) who has indiscriminate sexual contact with others purely for the sake of their own self gratification.
Dont be stupid. In about 5 years, if you look back and see that all of your sexual experiences as a teenager were with random guys because you just wanted to "hook up" you will feel like an idiot and definitely regret it.
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well at first I was like oh this poor girl wants to fix her reputation.. but then I realized that the question was where can I find boys to hook-up-more-then-make-out with. I'm sorry but that's just really sad. I only clicked this because I too am a HUGE flirt and have had rumors about me that I have had sex when I hadn't, and I wanted to help you. But come on no way are you gonna fix your reputation if you want to hook up with people.
BTW the answer is at parties and clubs and whereever the "get high" spot is. You can overcome the nerves is by being iwth someone that you trust and know won't judge you. If you don't want to be with someone like that then there is no way you just gotta go for it. and yes it is normal to hook up without boyfriends, but it's very frowned upon.
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Ok. Lets sort through the first part first off. Your reputation should be valued amoung one of your most prized posessions. No one, and i mean no one can take your dignity away from you but yourself. If people think that you have had sex and that you are willing to have sex with random guys, they are going to like you for the wrong reasons and dislike you for the wrong reasons. Liking you for the wrong reasons (think boys and 'oh shes easy!!') isnt really a good way to gain extra self esteem... and you might be missing the chance to get to know really awesome guys that might not want to talk to you coz they feel intimidated by what they've heard. Before anything I'd make sure i correct all the rumours about myself and make sure that no more rumours start.
Its ok to be a flirt, I'm a flirt, I like talking to boys in 'that way', its natural and fun and apart of being young! Dont let any girls make you feel bad about being friendly to boys.
Just hooking up or making out with someone is fine, i dont know your age but if your'e at a party and dancing with a guy i dont think its a problem and as long as you dont get a reputation for just pashing on at parties, its ok to do every now and again.
I think as far as oral goes, i would wait until you have found a boy that likes you for you and you love being with before you even think about giving/recieving oral. To do it with a random guy would not be the smartest at this stage, and of course its perfectly alright to freak out (trust me... this is coming from a girl who was totally grossed out by it when she first heard about it!!) it is actually not so bad when you have a wonderful guy that you love! Save your love and affection for the guy you meet that you know it wont be wasted on!
If you have any other worries make sure you speak to someone about it! Its better to be informed and make informed decisions than to be unaware and make bad ones, you'll thank yourself for waiting to give yourself to a guy in the long run, trust me!
Good Luck!
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