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not good at talking to guys...
hey. well, i'm 14/f. well, i'm just gonna cut to the chase. i suck at talking to boys. i've just started high school, and i always see all these girls talking to guys and giving them hugs and stuff, but i'm just too shy and not good at talking to them. i know their just other people, but somehow i find that when i get around guys i tend to be mean and rebelious (sp). i'm not lesbian or bi or anything, but idk. there was this one guy last year in like all of my classes and i really liked him, and i mean a lot, and i could always talk to him pretty well, but he's not in any of my classes this year, and he has a gf, and i still like him. but idk. i just need some HELP! thanks!
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I'm the same way. All you need is to overcome your fear, that's all! It's difficult though. The first step is to just talk to them like there your friend. If you see a guy you like when he's by himself, talk to him. When he's alone, he's the pefect to talk to because he doesn't have his friends judging him. First, he's gotta know you. It's kinda weird just walking up to him and say hi. Show your trueself so he can at least know you. If you have a class with him, then try to show yourself so he knows you. If you don't, lunch is a good time. Let your friends fool around and you can just follow and talk to him. It's weird, but I do it and it works like a charm. if you don't understand, I'll give you more detail, just ask again with your questions.
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Ok it seems that boys can be scary when your'e 14...
Take me for example. When i was 14 I'd find myself shaking at the site of a guy, especially ceratin guys who were classed popular, when i'd see them walking towards me in the hall. If they'd even so look at me id wonder 'oh no whats wrong, what do i have on my face, oh no is it a zit coming up, HELP!' and make a mad rush to the toilet to check!
When it all comes down to it, in reality... the more you worry the more 'un-approachable' you will come across and the less likely a guy will talk to you.
Talking to guys is so hard at first. You will stutter and think 'what next' constantly and im afraid to say as you get older it doesnt get any easier!
I know what its like when you see the confident girls getting hugs and getting attention from them but trust me, boys will start talking to you if you show them your'e a smart girl and have a lot to give in a friendship.
Take the step of sitting somewhere new in class one day, try raising your hand more in class discussion and getting your name known. From there is easy, just in the yard if they are playing sport join in, or compliment a boy which they love! If you have msn or computer chat try adding them on there and starting a conversation after school too, its a good conversation starter for the next day!
Good luck, and remember boys like it when you are yourself!
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it seems like you had a good conection with this guy.
I think that after you start to talk to a guy and get to know him you will be fine,
make sure not to be mean to a guy, because then he will think that you dont like him
joking around and stuff is fine though.
you just need to practice =]
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