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being honest or just polite?
14/f
I recently told my friend ( a guy, we will call him A ) that i had a crush on his best friend. ( we will call him F ) so A says to me that he will talk to F about me and see if F likes me too. A couple of days later, he tells me that F knows that I like him. Then a few more days later, and A tells me that F said he likes me but doesn't want a girlfriend right now during summer.
well, my question is- does this seem like he actually likes me? or is just being poliete and trying to say no he doesn't like me? i know it seems really silly, and obvious, but i just want to make sure thats the truth.
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Hey,
I'll add a bit to what solidadvice4teens said, but I don't think it's completely suited to your situation. I agree with what they said, it's just it sounds from your question that you were just sniffing things out, rather than actually being serious about asking him out or anything, in which case asking a mutual friend might be best. If you want to ask him out, yes, do it yourself.
The thing I will add is that asking a mutual friend might be risky for other reasons; such as A has feelings for you, and is trying to keep you from finding out that F is crazy about you, in order to try to have a chance with you himself.
If there's none of that going on, and what A told you is the truth of what F said to him, then F probably really does like you, but just has short-term reasons for not wanting to become attached at the moment. I wouldn't want to stereotype, but guys don't tend to much about as much being polite by putting things off as girls do. By talking to his friend, he would be removed enough from you to feel like he didn't need to be polite about saying whether or not he liked you.
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it's possible that he really does like you. all my guy friends say they don't want a girlfriend in the summer but they talk about girls they like and they talk about how they'll probably ask them out when school starts. start getting closer to him now, physically and emotionally so maybe by the time he wants a relationship you'll be the first he thinks about.
good luck
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Never use another person to do your dirty work to find out if someone likes you. Why? It always backfires. They either never ask, give you bad information or worse the guy brushes you off completely because you didn't approach him on your own.
A lot of guys will think you are insincere and cannot be bothered to tell them how you feel. The guy will want to hear it from you and not his best-friend. He wants to see if you can communicate and relate to him to see if you have chemistry.
What you need to do is approach your crush and ask him what he feels and admit it was a mistake based on being too nervous to have his friend ask. If you want him and you want to know how he feels about you approach him yourself. That's how you get the truth here.
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