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caring?
How do you learn not to care? Like..I try not to..yet in the end I care about things I really don't want to. How do I let go friends I don't want anymore and make my life hell....I'm really confused. Can someone help me?!
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You can't make yourself not care. There is a reason you care even though you think it's foolish or something. I have the same thing, but you can't make yourself not care. It's something in you that you can't just turn off. To let go of your friends is time. It takes time. It happens with also. Over the years, you will forget about the person. However, some things you won't forget and don't feel guilty about it.
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Unfortunatly its really impossible not to care because the more you try not to you end up caring more than you ever should. All I can tell you is be honest with yourself and if you care about something/someone then don't try and shove it away. Embrace it, because if you really want to stop caring about it realizing you DO in the first place is kinda like the first step.
As for the friend thing, you just have to figure out if they're actually worth having around. You don't have to be with them 24/7 just gradually move away from them. Join a club and meet new people.
Don't be scare to change things.
Change isn't always bad.
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Good luck.
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I've struggled with this before myself so I know how you feel. This answer is not to NOT care at all though. That will just make you a cold, hard, self-centered, and unpleasant person to be around- which I don't think you want to do!
So here's the trick, do things in MODERATION. It's not just a black or white issue, like you care too much or you don't care at all. Find a comfortable middle ground. Set limits! Otherwise you will just burn yourself out.
And second, make sure that you are caring for yourself first. That's #1, then you take care of other people.
Third, these things should be a give and take. It sounds like you're doing much more giving than taking. If your friends don't help you out when you're in need but always call for your help when they need it then that's not a great friendship. It should be a two-way street.
hope this helps. =)
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