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cant find anyone
i have a problem. i cant let any guy in my life. i guess its that im afraid of relationships and my expectations are too high... help?
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Fear is tricky. It is put in place to protect you from harm, yet it keeps you from growing. Fear is nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real. Your fears of what will happen in your relationships aren't neccessarily true. The question is where did this fear come from? Have you been hurt before, or do you have messages about yourself that perpetuates this fear. For example, if you have a message about yourself that states, 'I deserve to get hurt by other people' I could see how staying away from relationships would protect you. However, that is nothing more than a false belief about yourself. You need to learn how to trust that people wont hurt you. It takes time to regain that trust back from society, but the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. You can do it!
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it's hard to let someone into your life, and share personal things with them. for some people, it's way harder than for others. this def doesnt mean your expectations are too high, or that your afraid of a relationship, but it may be that you just haven't found the right guy. the best advice i could give you, is be yourself, dont change your expectations, but allow a guy to become closer to you. this doesnt mean to have him walk staright into your life, but allow him to work his way up, and see how things work out. best of luck! :]
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The best thing to do is to get to know a dude first. Get really comfortable with him outside a relationship and then when you think your ready to be in a relationship with that person then try. You can tell what type of person someone is by getting to know them.
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your expectations are usually not to high, you sound like a awesome girl who should be with a really great guy, he needs to be worthy of you, just dont expect him to be perfect.
Once the perfect guy comes you will be ready and if he is the right guy he will also show he is nor letting go of you.
You need to figure out why relationships are so hard for you and deal with your issues
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