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obsession?
ok ill tell you how i feel and see wat you think.
i feel like im obsessed with my bf, i wait for his calls, and wen hes not happy, i feel like its always me thats done something wrong, so then i go do something nice for him or buy him something to make him feel better.
how do i get rid of these feelings of alwayssss wanting to be with him, its like i cant concentrate on my own life. im always concerned with wat he is doing.
so yes, how do i stop this, i feel sometimes i have to pretend that i hate him just to not constantly think of him, its really annoying!!
i feel like if he doesnt spend fri and sat night with me, he'll go out and get drunk u no or play up, which he wouldnt because he doesnt go nightclubbing or anything but i seem to get really upset wen he wants to spend a fri or sat night apart. weeknights are fine cause we both got work the next morning, so i always stay at home, but on weekends its different, i just cant seem to get a handle on my own life again you no, i feel like im revolving everything i do around him.
anything right now would help, because i feel like im getting to possesive or a bit controlling. please help, hes really good to me and supportive with my emotions so thats all good, i just want to be able to turn the tables a bit you no, make him make the plans for a change, or wait for me, instead of me waiting for him. its hard to explain how i feel, but yeah.
please help
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it sounds like your really insecure, try to figure out why your so insecure.
Also, maybe your dad and your mom were married they divorced so now your being so clingy its like you are so worried about it that your making it come true?
Maybe you feel like he only matters and that you, yourself are not important, i really dont know i get like that too...
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It's called love, sweetie ;)
I think part of the reason why you want to be with him all the time is because you don't trust him. I'm sure he loves you too and it's great he is supportive of your emotions. You just need to learn to trust the guy. Let him go out with his friends when he wants - give him time to miss you and brag about you to his friends :)
It's great to be with the person you love, but it's also great to know that you, yourself as an individual, can do things on your own. You don't need a guy to make you who you are, because you're special on your own.
It's easy to say "just stop thinking of him"... much easier than it is to do!! I know how you feel!! But try to focus on somethign else, other friends, or school, or work or anything (take up a hobby that does not involve him). Coz sometimes time apart is more important than time together (it makes you realise how much you miss that person!)
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