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okay so this guy got a gf and then tried to mess around with me, but i didn't let him. i mean i was sitting on his lap and holding hands, and that was my fault and i feel terrible but then he just got way too touchy, trying to pull down my pants and stuff and whatever. i wouldn't let him. and i do not like this guy at all. i mean he's cute and i could see us having "fun" together but not a relationship and now whenever i talk to him [through texts] he seems like he doesn't want to talk to me. which i don't understand because the other day he was so turned on by me and now he doesn't even want to talk. I feel like he thinks i like him, and it's freaking him out, but i DON'T at all. either that or he just thinks of me as a fling, and nothing more. Should i just leave him alone for a few weeks? eee help please :]
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Leave him alone.
A tip for the future, because I was young and stupid once and most guys will do this.
Guys are hopeful, when it comes to women. Deep, deep down we like to think we have the ability to attract anyone, if only given the chance.
So, when we like a girl, and we show a girl we like her in some round-about, probably really immature way, we think it actually has a chance in hell.
If we give a girl attention, and she is nice to us, she must like us. If we give a girl attention, and shes not nice to us, shes playing hard to get, so she must really like us. Only if a girl tells us to go away and refuses to have anything to do with us do we actually interpret the signals correctly as "shes not interested"
If he likes you, or even just hopes to sleep with you, youre helping that hope along. Leave him alone for a while, send clear signals, its all you can do.
Because if he wants you badly enough, hes never going to stop hoping. And chasing. And being generally annoying.
Im in my 20s and I _still_ catch myself doing it now and again.
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This shouldn't be too complicated hun.
You rejected his advances. His ego is bruised. To make matters worse he knows he shouldn't have been doing that to you in the first place!
I would hope is just ashamed, but he might also be ticked off at you, or worried about what you feel or who you might tell.
The best way to deal with this is to put your cards on the table. Tell him you don't like him, you aren't gonna fool around with a guy who is taken but that you'd like if you two could just move on be cool. Maybe that will snap him out of his silliness.
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It's good that you didn't let him. That would be unfair to his gf & obviously a bad thing to do if you weren't comfortable with it. He's probably avoiding you because you turned him down. You didn't let him get what he wanted. He could also be ashamed & embarrased of what he did. He might know he went too far & feels guilty that he has a girlfriend. There could be plenty of reasons on why he doesn't seem interested in talking to you. He might think you like him, but he's probably embarrased. Talk to him & ask him how he feels & if he wants to be your friend. You shouldn't let him go far with you if you don't like him that way & if he has a girlfriend. If you confront him about it & he still seems distant, leave him go. He should probably work things out with his gf anyways.
-hope that helped!♥
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