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why university?
Ok it seems that all my parents care is getting me to university.
There's these 4 things our teacher said we can go to: college, university, aprenticeship, and some other thing.
They say that depends on what you want to be is whether you go to university, college, etc but my dad keeps saying that university is for everything and that university are for the smarter peolple. is that true?
They don't even think about it at all, it doesn't matter what i want to be or not, all they care is getting me into a university.
I mean im the smartest in my class but I can't help but wonder, why university?
I'm about to enter high shcool is year and the stress of abandoning my friends were enough but then Im scared of entering high shcool, even though everyone says i'll do fine with my brain.
But eventually, everyone will crack at some point in high shcool. Even i did a couple of times this year. There's just no breaks! And then after you graduate high shcool you enter one of those four things for how many years! I want to be in the medical field so there will be no rest in what i have to work for and I'll be trapped in school for like 20 years! I'm very obsessed with cleaness and don't like living in apartments where other peope used to live before.
I don't know why i'm so stressed but can't you be super successful without going to university?
I mean, Ijust want a quick way out but be successful at the same time.
Ever since i was small, I imagined myself setting down in a family at a very young age
like probably 22, a house wife with kids and on some days work at soemthing medical while still shopping and hanging out with my friends, have money and finally use them in my own ways instead of my parents holding me down on what I want to buy, and just having a free life but successful at a yougn and early age and still look great or decent.
But going to university for medical reasons will make me come out really old and I won't be able to have a lot of kids or else it would make people see me as un professional and probably a slut for having a baby while i'm a doctor, a very clean reputative career.
I don't know why I'm writing this cuz it may seem far away but not really.
And some of you might say, why can't you choose a different carreer? Well i think it's because being somethign medical is the only or one of the most wise jobs to be cuz you can be a computer programer or a singer but it's really useless. You can live without listening to others sing with cds and things and you can certainly live WITHOUT a computer but in the medical feilds you can actually save a life. Can you save someone from music? It may really make you feel better but it won't heal you from dying.
Does anyone have opinions to share? any things that you agree on? I want to see if there's even a chance my dream future can happen and stay on reality instead of day dream land and get a grip on myself.
Maybe I'm holding onto such a high standard for myself?
Maybe i just want to acheive a very high goal yet still look good? Maybe I'm Vain? Maybe I'm selfish?
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I entirely understand your situation. When I was in high school I was under a lot of pressure; two part-time jobs, volunteer work, heavy physical training... and I had to stay on the honour roll. If I got under 85 on anything, my parents would give me the "you're going to be flipping burgers for the rest of your life" speech.
I got into university (studying engineering), and... messed up big time. Once that pressure is gone, it's really hard to maintain your previous work patterns. Plus, university is a totally different learning environment. Instead of a class of 30, I had classes of up to 1000. The profs don't know who you are. You need to make an appointment to get extra help. Sometimes, your profs won't even really teach... you're mostly expected to teach yourself from your textbook. I couldn't cope with all of this, and I failed out of university after my first year.
I enrolled in a program at the college nearby (it's a very highly esteemed college). What I'm doing now is a lot like engineering, and it's still a university program. My college has combined forces with the university I used to go to, and they're offering a program that gives you both a degree and a diploma for four years of study. I went, in one year, from failing out to straight A's. I even got 100% in calculus! The difference was amazing. The teachers were amazing, and really into their job. I was on a first name basis with most of them. My class only had 36 people in it. I got individual time with my profs if I didn't understand something. And most importantly, I got a lot more lab time last year than I got in my first year of engineering at university.
I don't know if my story helped at all, but here's my take on your story:
You're aiming for something because you think that it's the only way to make a difference in the world. It's not. Everyone makes a difference if you think about it. Maybe you're not saving lives, but that doesn't mean it's useless! Engineers keep people safe when they design buildings, cars, everything. Teachers help kids reach their goals. Even plumbers make a difference; think about how the world would be if sewage systems didn't work!
You should aim for something you enjoy, are good at, and can make a living with. Me for example: I'm good at math, science, and the arts, but I only really enjoy studying math and science. Engineering is a good field for me to be in, because I enjoy the subjects I'm studying, and I am good at them. You have to fit your future to your abilities, not your abilities to your future.
As for stressing out about getting into university, try checking into programs like mine. I'm pretty sure that other colleges offer degree programs, which is a great thing to get into if you decide against medicine. I've been talking to my father about what educational facilities are the best to go to, and he has said that in this day and age, a college diploma will get you every bit as far as a degree in a lot of cases. Employers are looking for people with hands-on experience, which is the main focus of colleges. So, colleges aren't for stupid people... they just have a different focus (hands-on vs. theoretical).
Medicine is a great path to take, but it's not the only one. Open up your mind to other fields. Try talking to a guidance or career counsellor, if you have one at your school. Find out what suits you best!
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me, because this happens to be something that I know a lot about. I was in your position once (I wanted to be a neurosurgeon in high school) and I know how draining it can be!
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I think your questions are very good ones, and normal for a girl your age. They show that you are still very young and haven't matured yet. But that is OK. It seems that your folks are putting a lot of pressure on you. And that is causing your anxiety. It really is too early to be worrying about these things. You still have high school to go through. And thinking about hanging with your fiends and going shopping and having control of your money....well yes, all those things are going to happen, but they won't be the focus of your life. Like they are now. Having all this time to hang out with friends and shop and stuff is a luxury and it is because you have no adult responsibilities yet.
Once you become an adult, whether or not you go to university, or become a doctor or a housewife. YOu and all of your friends will have full days with work and family and responsibilities, and not as much time to hang out together. But that is normal. That is what life is like when you become an adult. But not to worry. You will fall into it, and be just fine.
Wanting to be a doctor is a wonderful thing. And so would being a nurse. but these are things to keep in the back of your mind while you go through High School. Being smart and getting good grades, that is your job right now. The better your grades, the more choices you will have when you are ready for college.
And no, you won't be considered old, when you graduate from college. Only 13 year olds think that people in their twenty's are OLD. But really your twenties can be a great time in your life, when you are finally in control of your own life.
Your obsession with cleanliness could be a problem. I mean you say you want kids, well guess what, kids are messy. Can't help it, they just are. It is fine to want to be clean, and keep yourself clean and avoid messes.....but that is how you feel about yourself. You cannot expect another person, or your loved ones to place the same emphasis on cleanliness that you do. Of course you can FORCE them, but then that would be like being forced by your parents to attend university, when you don't want to go.
I hope this helps give you some insight into your feelings about the future. It is okay to have questions and be concerned about it. Is it hard you ask. Well it would certainly seem hard to a young girl who hasn't learned all that she needs to yet to be an adult and take on the responsibilities that go along with that. But you will learn more and more each year. And not just in school, but in every day life with your friends and family.
Good luck to you dear.
Michele
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why a univeristy ? a university is the best choice if possible. those who attend universitys have more choices as to what they want to do with their life. they have more options, and are seeked more in whatever career they would like to pursue. having a child early as a doctor is not slutty. slutty is having a child before you are married which has nothing to do with your career choice. of course to work in the medical field you don't have to go to a university or take a long time. if you are positive that's what you would like to do, you can just go to a trade school for nursing. you don't need great credentials, and you will still be in the medical field and make good money, as well as have an in-demand career which means, basically, that you will most likely be able to get a job anywhere and anytime you would like. although being a nurse in some places is pretty hectic, some of the hours are pretty good. for example, you might work for two days straight, and then get two days off, which i think is pretty great. this does sound good, but if you attend a trade school for nursing and then decide that is not what you would like to continue doing with your life, then you would have to go back to college. i think you should look into other career options, but keep that in the back of your mind. although doctors are more respectable and make more money, a nurses paycheck is pretty good as well. my friend's mom is a nurse and eanrs 50$ an hour. this way, you can work for a year, take a year off, and if you would like to work again and earn more money, you can get a job again anytime, because like i said, nurses are in demand these days. just keep thinking about what you want, but focus more on what you like. it's better to live life doing what you like than just trying to make money.
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