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never been kissed
hey
15/f
I wanna start off by saying that I dont want to sound stuck up or into myself or anything.
Anyway, I havnt had my first kiss yet. Im not prude. Alot of guys like me and think im hot, something just usually goes wrong before I kiss them. I've done other stuff, just not kissing. Is this really lame?
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When I do have my first kiss, I want it to seem like I know what im doing. Can I do this through just being confident or should I practice or something....? Also are first kisses really that important? Or should I just get it over with so I have some experience for someone I do really really like
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First kisses are first kisses. It would be nice to be able to look back and always remember how nice it was. However, that's all that is to it. If you want to seem like you know what you are doing here are a few tips. practice kissing on your arm. Make sure you use your tongue wisely don't try and choke the guy with it and most of all remember to breath. Relax, it will be a piece of cake if you are kissing someone you like and trust and if the feelings are mutual.
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No, it's not weird a lot of people your age haven't had first kisses yet. Personally I didn't enjoy kissing till I was a bit older.
You should give your first kiss to someone you care about who cares about you ideally. In fact pretty much every intimate action with your body should happen with someone that you care about who feels the same about you. That doesn't always happen but it makes it much easier when you are trying something for the first time when it is with someone who isn't just in it for the physical components. Also giving away parts of your body and kisses to random men cheapens sex and other activities when you meet your future husband. But if you only give out kisses and sexual activity to people that you care about you will be less likely to have emotional issues down the road. Versus the girls who are just throwing their bodies out there like hos.
Honestly every first kiss with a new guy is kind of like never having kissed someone because everyone has different kissing styles and you have to adjust accordingly. By the way the best advice I can give you is to not be too forceful, let him guide the way and just follow his lead for the beginning and then as you become more comfortable you can take a more leadership role.
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No, it's not lame that you haven't kissed yet. There are actually tons of people your age who haven't been kissed, just most don't project it openly, you know "I just got kissed" sounds a lot more exciting than "I wasn't kissed, today.." . But anyway, you shouldn't just kiss someone to be able to check that off on your life checklist or whatever (I think that's lame, and it says something about you that you didn't.
Which brings me to my next point. Your first kiss is what you make of it. There are people that got it in kindergarten by someone they didn't like and I'm not sure that really counts, and people that got it later on with someone that never cared or was doing it for the heck of it. However, whether you like it or not, a kiss establishes something between two people. It's not conscious; it's completely biological. And the first time you kiss is the only time you'll really be as completely terrified and unsure and surprised when it does happen. Like a new discovery that's scary but eye opening at the same time. After that, kisses won't be as big a deal.
My personal opinion is that you should wait for someone you care about. Getting it over with sends completely the wrong message, and you could end up developing feelings for a guy you don't actually want to like, or he could actually have feelings for you and then he'll feel used and you'll be guilty for being the user. Kissing could become something casual for you, and could mess you up a bit psychologically so you lose your criteria for who you'll kiss. In my opinion, you should kiss someone who you've already established something with. That way it'll still be a bit deal for you, the first kiss you guys share, and you'll stay grounded about your kissing "values". He'll likely be a lot more sensitive and you'll likely enjoy it a lot more. If it's your first of anything you'll most likely remember it for a looong time, so you might as well make it something you'll remember for the right reasons.
Confidence is probably all you'll really need for your first time, that and being aware of what your partner is doing (you could try mirroring his actions if you ever get stuck... for future reference). To practice, what works best is if you make a loose fist... it's oddly similar to a pair of lips when you kiss where the small gap is. Go on being yourself, and when the right guy comes along you'll know it.
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you shoudl wait until the guy wants it.lol i find that easier.okay but not every guy kisses the same.not at all.its kind hard. i use to be scared thinking the guy was gonna be like wow you suck but then after a wile me and my bestfriend(who was a gurl)made out and its was ljust like i knew how to do it.kinda like you knoe.its comes to you.idk i hope it helps.its not lame.trust me i wish i still had my first kiss.lol i lost my first kiss to a gurl.lol
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It's perfectly fine if you havn't had your first kiss yet. Try not to force your first kiss on anyone, kind of just let it happen. When it happens it will happen. If you have doubts on how to kiss, here's an idea. It's kind of like eating icecream, (don't laugh, lol) When you put your whole mouth on the icecream, you stroke your tongue up and down. A kiss is usually slow and steady. Hope this helps.
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