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i feel lost! :(
how do i stop being sad? i just feel so sad all the time and i dont know why? i feel like nobody cares! im drifting apart from my best friend and i feel she doesnt even care... she never wants to hang out and i hate it! & i used to be so close to my big sis but she never has time for me anymore... i feel so lost! & at night a always cry.. am i depressed? i hate feeling this way... but i cant help it.
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Don't feel lost. People drift apart all of the time. My best friend and I just stopped talking this year after being friends for 4 years. I don't think that you have depression. You will meet new people and your sister may just be going through a lot right now. Invite her to go do something with you.
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Honey, this is not a good thing, and you should be concerned, I am glad that you came here for advice, Hope I can help.
First, you say that you have made attempts to spend time with your friend and your sister, but they are too busy, so something. So if you are making attempts to be with people, but they are just too busy, then it is time to find some new friends. People who are depressed usually don't want to spend time with anyone. They are not interested in company. For the most part, they just want to be alone. It it hard to find out that the people you love and care about are too busy for you. And I know it is hard to make new friends. But if that is the issue...then it is so much easier to deal with than clinical depression, which could require weeks of therapy with a psychiatrist and medication.
It is not unusual for people to grow apart honey. It happens all the time. It just seems more awful when you are young, because you don't have the ability to look at the big picture. You and your sister are sisters for LIFE. Nothing can change that. your relationship with go through ups and downs. There are times when you will feel close and times when you too, are too busy for your sister. But when you are both grown women, it is very likely that you two will become close again.
As far as your friend goes. Well many of us make friends and lose friends, and make new friends all our lives. We make friends in our neighborhoods, at school, through our relatives, and through clubs and organizations that we belong too. We make friends with people that we have something in common with. If it is true that your friend has found some new interests and does not feel that she has a lot in common with you right now, there is nothing you can do about that. You can't dictate how other people should feel. What you can do is find new friends. I think there is another girl that you may know slightly, who feels lonely just like you do, and would love to have a new friend to share things with. No one can do this for you, honey, You have to do it yourself.
Here is another point. Maybe your friend and sister are spending less time with you because you are so unhappy. And your unhapiness brings them down. If that is the case, then I can tell you right now.....happy people do not want to spend time with people who are unhappy, and who complain a lot. You have to look at your behavior and decide whether or not, you are driving people away. People do love you and they do want to care, but it is too frustrating for someone to try and make a person happy, when they keep finding reasons not to be. And here is a clue, being happy comes from within. It does not come from having lots of friends, or from being the prettiest girl in the school, or from going to the mall, or from having the cutest boyfriend, or from being the best in soccer, etc. etc. etc.
It comes from loving yourself, and from knowing that you are on a path to a great life that will be full of good friends, and a career that you will find challenging, and from knowing some day that you will find the right man who will be a good husband and great father, and from helping other people.
I hope that you find this helpful. good luck to you.
Michele
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