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mymom, my boyfriend, my problem!
ok so im 14 and im in complete love with my boyfriend and i know u here that all of the time but we hang out everyday and when im not with him its the worste feeling in the world and we've been together 5 months and we've been inseperable ever since so we were down in my basement the one day and me and him r kind of kinky haha and we like to fool around but we've never had sex and we arent going to b/c wer'e too young and there is too many risks so anyway, i went to put on a skirt [so he didnt have to pull my pants down b/c my mom was upstairs] and then i told my mom i was going to "model" the skirt for him so i wnet downstairs and out it on then he was laying on the floor and i went to step over him so he could look up my skirt and as soon as i did that my mom came down and saw that! i told her i tripped and she came down at the worste time ever it was soo bad and now she thinks im like a whore or something and i told her im not but im not going to tell her that ive done everything but sex esp. if she thinks ill ive done was make out yanno? and now my bf thinks my mom hates him but she doesnt so i dont know what to do! please help me! what do i do? :/
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hi, i think you just need to talk to your mum, tell her that your not that kind of person, you havent' had sex and your not a whore. Also let your boyfriend know that your mother doesn't hate him and she understands the situation.
hopefully this will be helpful, and good luck with ur mum :)
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I think you should talk to your your mom at a good time when she's relaxed and off-guard. Calmly (and ~CALMLY~ is the key word, hun) explain how her thinking of you like a whore hurts your feelings and makes you feel bad.
Don't let your mom interuppt you and just stick it to her straight. AND..you don't have to go into detail about other stuff you've done with your BF :]..if she inquires, though, then here's another key word for you: bullshit.
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Mum's don't like the idea or knowledge that their little girls are beginning to experiment with sex. She will only have your best interests at heart and she will be upset to think that you are "making out" at 14 (with all that it entails). Be honest with your Mum and tell her that you are not having sex and have no intention of going all the way until you are much, much older. There are still risks with fooling around and you should be aware that you can still catch STDs from a guy who has had unprotected sex with someone else. You and your Mum need to come to an agreement and fix some boundaries for you and your boyfriend. She was young once and will remember what it was like to be 14 and have raging hormones racing around her body. Listen to what she has to say and understand where she is coming from. Hope this helps.
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LOL! that has to suck badly! im sry but the only thang you can really do is talk to your mom and try to tell her anything that will make her feel better. Theres nothing really to do to make your mom forget about this little problem. But yea she will get over it youll just have to wait it out!
Mal-lori
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well if your sure your mom doesnt hate him the try to convince him over to your house for dinner or something that involves your mom too, so he can see that she doesnt hate him...
if your mom really thinks your a whore, just sit her down and talk to her, in a serious talk.. (of course you can lie a little)... tell her you know all aboutthe "birds and the bees" and you arehaving sex or anything like that, tell her to trust you.. that you areway smarter than that, that you know you are to young, and you know about all the risks, just tell her all those things so she wont think bad about you, and the one thing that will really make her feel good.. tellher "mom you raised me right, dont worry" i said that to my mom before... and she cried (of joy) and completly just ignored the stuff that was going on and now she thinks im a little angel.. lol...
so just talk to her in seriousness...like you and her go out to eat or something and talk... and invite your boyfriend over to prove she doesnt hate him
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