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prude???
14/f
I'm a flirt, and I love being with guys and just being out there and fun. But the problem is..I've never really made out with a guy. Everytime I get the opportunity, I just clench up and kindof freak out. It's kindof like I don't know what to do, and I just don't wanna deal with it. Most people don't believe that I haven't been to THIRD, let alone first. Am I prude for being like this? I don't know what to do, cause everytime I could hook up with someone I feel all shaky and strange.
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well, i think that if you want to make out with a guy then you should. i understand completely that when you get a chance you feel real nervous. i use to get like that too. and i would back out just like you say you do. you're 14. you have plenty of time so if you feel like you want to wait, then wait. no one has to know what all you have done. but if you do want to kiss someone then dont be worried because it comes natural ! hope this helps! good luck girl!
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A prude is generally considered to be someone who thinks that certain things are wrong or immoral.
You're just nervous
They arent the same thing.
Take things slowly, if you really arent ready to try something, dont. Its not your job to be what your friends think you are or should be. Its not your job to do things you arent ready for just because someone might think you are a prude or say so just to get you to do something you dont want to yet.
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If you are for sure that the guy trying to kiss you is the guy you really want to kiss try it.. its easy to do and once you do it you wont regret it.. but dont rush either.. there is always a perfect timing for a kiss.. and youll know when it is.
i hope that will help:)
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give it sometime if you don't feel ready yet. all my friends seemed to be kissing boys almost two yrs. before i even had my first kiss. i always felt to nervous and once i finally got the confidence to do it it was great & deffinetly worth the wait =)
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You're fourteen. Give it time.
I'd say that your feelings are perfectly normal, including the apprehension. Don't rush these things! It isn't a race to see who can advance the bases the fastest; physical intimacy is something you should do at your own pace, and at your own comfort level. I'd say that at this age, you're probably ready for serious kissing, and not much more.
Do it for the right reasons - don't do it just so you can say you did. You want your first kiss to be something memorable, not something you did just to get it over with.
Don't label yourself. You are certainly not a "prude" just because no one's felt you up yet. If you get to be 21 years old and still haven't kissed anyone, then you might want to re-evaluate, but for the moment you're on the right path. Those who get start getting sexual too early tend to eventually regret it - there's evidence of that all over this website!
So take your time. There really is no rush.
Incidentally, depending on how you define "third base", it might actually be illegal for a guy to go there with someone your age. You might want to check the local laws on that before you encourage some poor guy to commit a back-seat felony. Use Google, and look up "Age of Consent" for your state.
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Don't worry about it, you are not prude, in fact there is nothing wrong with you. You shouldn't worry about what others think. You are still young, let things happen at their own pace. Have you ever thought that maybe you just haven't met the right guy, or someone who is worth you, don't worry things will work out for you.
I hope this helps, just be yourself. Good Luck.
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