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Following your own advice...
Why is it always so hard to follow your own advice?
I've been in a friendship with someone for over 5 years. (I'm a rising senior in high school, she is too). In the middle of our sophomore year she was sent away to a group home because of her bad behavior. While she was gone I was able to clean up the mess in my life (stop using drugs, drinking, etc.). She just moved back about a week or two ago and although I've kept myself from sinking back into her ways through help of a friend, I can't bring myself to end our friendship. We have been through so much together. We live in the same neighborhood - about a 5 minute walk away. I know that once we graduate we won't see each other anymore so I want to just continue our friendship for this final year of high school then part ways. It would be so much easier that way. BUT if any of you were in the situation I was in the I would literally tell you that the solution was simple. She's doing nothing but hurting you in the end and to discontinue the friendship sooner rather than later. She's a bad influence and you don't need someone like that in your life.
I know it's an unhealthy friendship. The only good in it is that although she smokes pot (does not consider it a drug, she considers it an herb.. she does nothing else drug-wise) and drinks (not a lot at all) and hooks up with guys constantly, she doesn't pressure me or anyone else to participate.
The bad in it is that not only does hanging out with her make it appear that I appove of her behaviour, which I don't at all, but it also makes me feel the need to go back to my old ways. If I were to go back to that then I know I wouldn't have the strength to clean up my life again.
So, why can't I just take my own advice and keep away from her? Why is it alway so much harder to do what you would tell others? I feel like such a hypocrite because I can't follow my own advice.
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Its always hard to handle your own problems because you try to avoid it and ignore the fact that its really happening my best advice to you, continue the friendship until it comes to an end, if she's not affecting you do negatively then what's the problem? Understand you can't change people accept them or you don't.
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Taking your own advice is one of the hardest things in the world to do. Many people have trouble with it, myself included with that.
The phrase "easier said than done" pretty much sums this one up. You can say it, but it won't make it any easier to do. As we all know, the right thing, is never the easier. We know what's right, we know what should be done, however, rarely ever is it the easy thing to do. Therefore, we avoid our own advice.
By the way, my opinon on the friendship is it should be ended now. You're right, she is a bad influence.
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