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what should i do?
ok ... i sexually please my boyfreind on a regular basis. But we don't have sex b/c im a virgin and want to wait but he is ok with it. Now...I am contstantly doing things for him (oral, hj's...that kinda stuff) but when it comes time for me to get some pleasure in return...nothing happens. I could lay on the bed for an hour with my legs spread cuz im so horny, but he doesn't seem to notice. he will do things like play with my boobs and put his hand down there and get me turned on...but wont do anything else. I end up having to masterbate when he isnt around. How can i remedy this? I'm kinda shy about asking him to do things to me ... and i dont want him to feel like he fails b/c he doesnt do stuff to me much anymore.Sometimes I dont think it crosses his mind... how can i get him to start returning the favors? lol. Thanks in advance ... sorry it was so long.
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I think the problem is that he doesn't know what to do down there and doesn't want to be embarassed. Maybe he's not confident or comfortable when it comes to returning the favor in the way you would like.
As shy as you are you have to remember two things. The first is, you're in a trusting relationship and can talk about anything. Secondly, He's not in the least bit shy to ask you to do what he wants and enjoys.
Why should you be? It's okay to tell him and talk openly about it as that's being mature and responsible when it comes to sexual matters. Most guys at your age don't understand female genitals to know what to do at all.
You need to talk to him and tell him what you want and that he better return favors soon or you won't be giving any. He'll get the point. Then you can communicate with him before, during, after and give him pointers on pleasing you. Don't be shy as he certainly isn't.
What you ought to do is point him to these responses from us and tell him you wrote in and need him to start returning sexual favors and it's a two way street.
More or less use that line in your question about him starting out touching here and there and you having to go handle things on your own afterwards as it's not satisfying enough. He'll get it and might be relieved to know this as I have a feeling he's clueless about what to do down there.
Also, guys/girls all get turned on by different things and it's your responsibility to tell him what turns you on because he cannot figure it out on his own. Definitely go for it and throw shyness out the window as he's not the least bit shy therefore you shouldn't be either.
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if i was you. i'd talk to him n be like what's good. because if anything you should be getting action before him :p. but yeah i would deffinatly talk to him n i'd just be like heyy .. n just start off easy with the conversation. good luck
hope i helped.
-anjelica <3.
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It wasn't too long, don't worry. :]
Just talk to him about it. Communication is the key in any relationship- so is give and take. Tell him you'd appreciate a little more give on his end sometimes, because you feel like the scale is unbalanced. :]
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