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I'm not sure what to do...break up with him or keep pushing
I'm an 18 year old female.
I met a guy through my online school a year ago (when I was in high school). We started talking on the phone a lot sometimes 8 hours in a day. At first I thought of him more as a friend but as time went on I started to have romantic feelings for him. I know that sounds weird since we've never met but I felt that way nonetheless.
Now it's been 6 months since we started talking, and I love him very much, but not as a boyfriend type.
First off he's not at all what I'm physically attracted to (he's red haired fair skinned and thin build I prefer dark hair dark features more muscular build), but I'm not that shallow so I convinced myself since I loved him for who he was on the inside that the outside wouldn't matter. However now I'm finding myself wishing he looked a lot different, and it bothers me more.
Secondly I'm a libra and he's a scorpio, and whether people believe in the zodiac or not fact is our personalities sometimes clash so badly we have outrageous arguments on the phone.
Thirdly, well really the fact is he's not the guy I dreamed of. He lives three hours away and he wants to get together soon, and his mom wants to bring him (he's not 18 yet), but I don't want to. The thing is I love him so much, but I wish we could be friends. But he wants something much more. I know if I break up with him I'll lose him as a friend and I don't want that he's like my best friend.
What should I do?
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If you are not physically attracted to this guy. You have to be honest to him before he asks you out and you really regret not telling him that you are not attracted to him. I'm pretty sure that he would understand how you feel, and he should respect that.
I hope this helped.
//Smallazn4lyfe
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If you cannot see this kid as your boyfriend, then you need to be honest with him. You're being honest with yourself, so he deserves the truth. And I'm pretty positive he expects it from you.
Astrology is a dumb reason for a break-up. Just because your zodiac signs don't match doesn't mean he's a horrible person. Arguments are normal & healthy for a relationship. Don't blame them on the zodiac signs & astrology.
But, still. If you don't like him in that way anymore, then you need to be honest with him & let him know that. You may lose him as a friend, but at least he'll know the truth & you won't be leading him on.
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now if you really like him. I am not talking about looks here i am talking about personality. then you should contiue but if you only dislike him cause hes not "hot" or w/e then your just being shallow.
If he is really not your type like hes to spunky or to clingy and that bothers you then take some time off and date other people. Maybe you will relize you like this guy or maybe you will find a new one.
hope i helped...
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