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older guy :/
Alright.There's this guy.And I love him so much.But he's unfourtantly 4 years older than me..and I'm only 13.So that is really really bad.But I just sort of fell for him.I know for a fact he doesn't like me at all..but what do I do? I mean I talk to him all the time..and I asked him out once..but he said no because of..something.And so yeah.
Help please =//
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I wouldn't really ask him out if i was you.
you are still only 13 and hes 17.
you have a lot more things that are ahead of you than him. don't waste your time with someone that is 4 years older than u at this age.
you should try to find someone your age and stick with that person. u can still have a crush on the 17 year old guy now, but just don't overdo it.
I hope this helped.
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Like it or not, his maturity level vastly outpaces yours with that age difference.
Crushes are fine. To be honest, you are going to like alot of people in your life. Its a good thing to learn to control it a little so when its not a good idea, you can stop it and save liking someone for someone who is a better person to like for whatever reason.
Aim more for your age group. At 13 you shouldnt stray past 14 really. Its simply a matter of dating experience coupled with similar levels of maturity.
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UPDATED ANSWER:
Hmm... That doesn't really change anything, however, you should ask him how he feels about you , as in if he likes you as more than a friend. I know this may seem like a longer leap than you can probably take, but think of it this way. If you don't ask him, what happens when he gets into a meaningful relationship with someone else, and you then find out that he actually liked you?
You're better off knowing that he doesn't like you, than you are not knowing whether or not he does.
If you need anymore help, feel free to ask me at anytime. :)
Eeek. I wouldn't get mixed up in a matter like this. Do understand that guys that are older picture a relationship differently, which usually means that they are more physical and expect more chemistry than does a 13 year old guy.
I'd say try your best to forget about him, because if he has said, "No", then that usually means that he doesn't like you in that way; older guys are pretty straight-forward...
I also wouldn't get involved with him, because once he turns 18, your chances are over and done with because it'll be illegal since you are a minor.
Just ask him if he wants to be friends. Being friends is better than going out with someone at your age, because, from past experience, middle school relationship just don't work out very much.
If you need any more help, just ask. :)
Best Regards,
Mariah
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