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HELP
Well im like madly in love with my friends boyfriend. Theyve only been going out for like 5 days, but ive liked him since the beginning of the year. And so two weeks ago right after he broke up with his girlfriend i told him i liked him and that i was going to ask him out, but i knew he would say no, because he just broke up with his girlfriend, and i kinda had a hunch that he sorta of liked shannon. And he said he kinda did, but that didnt mean he liked me, and that he promised he wouldnt go out with her. And so i was all happy. But he never talked to me about it again. And so finally i was just like is it because you dont like me and hes like no i really like you i just have to think about stuff. BUT HE TOLD SHANNON THE EXACT SAME THING. And hes not that kind of person. And i yelled at him, and im really mad at him right now, but i cant get him off my mind, and everytime i think about him and shannon together, i start crying, because it just doesnt feel right. And dont tell me to just stop liking him. Its not that easy. And i dont care if you say im not in love, because i am, i cant stop thinking about him and ive never felt like this with a guy before. Hes really not the kind of person to be like that, and he just didnt stop and think, and i cried myself to sleep last night because i cant stop thinking about him, and i love him sooooo much, and hes so sweet, and i just dont know what to do.
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okay.. it sounds to me like this guy has no idea what he wants. which isnt exactly good boyfriend material. and i know that you say you love him, and im not saying that you dont.. but sometimes you have to get over the ones you love..
i think that you should do two things to help you
- poke around for new options
- keep yourself busy
He also could have just said he liked you because he didnt want to hurt your feelings. i've been there before.
let him decide what he wants. stay away from him for a while and kind of stop talking to him and if he is constantly trying to see/talk to you then you know that he has feelings for you. plus, think of your friend.. how do you think she would feel if you just stole her boyfriend?
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This guy either:
a) doesn't know what he wants
b) does know and is playing games
c) is not interested in you in that way and doesn't have the heart to tell you knowing your feeelings for him, so he's making excuses.
EITHER WAY, I'm sorry to tell you, there's not a lot that you can do about it. Love has to be a 2-way street. If he loves you, he will pursue you, but he needs to make this decision on his own and in his own time.
If you make any attempts to nudge him you will just push him away. Not to mention, that you will probably also lose a friend in the process.
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