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i could use all the help from guys and girls honestly.
okay so i've been in relationships before, but none like this. i broke up with my ex boyfriend chris about a month ago, and we were together for 2 and half years. however about a year ago i started seeing this guy around the place i work.. and he always caught my eye. now i find him attractive of course but its like the eye contact and stuff, i dunno i just feel so happy and excited that i saw him. well it went on about probably 8-10 times since i first saw him. i wanted nothing more then to talk to him! well one day in may, he saw me, i was getting food to go from where i work, and he had just finished eating there, so i was outside and he stopped me. he said hi and we talked for just a few minutes and ended up exchanging phone numbers. well he calls and says "oh we need to hang out sometime" and i was so EXCITED! i cant even explain!
well the whole month of june, just about, it was off and on texting.. but i felt like i was sort of bothering him.. you know i would say "hey you (: whats up?" and i'd get "nuthin" im like "thats cool.." and then he wouldnt say anything back.. "then im like are you okay?" (after about the 3 time he'd done that to me" and he said "yeah im just busy" so i was like alright then thats cool. well apparently he was trying to straighten things out with this girl.. who he had been talking with for awhile and stuff. so hey thats cool, i was in the middle of breaking up with my bf, but it didnt kill me so much because it was something i've known for awhile that i wanted to do.
anywayy. so we get into this texting deal just about everyday.. the whole "good morning beautiful (:" etc.. he told me it felt like we were meant to meet eachother because we both had that happy feeling.. i always saw him looking at me before too. anyway. well he doesnt have his license yet, supposed to but his parents wont let him cause he kinda got into trouble for always arguing and stuff, so he cant drive to see me. he lives about 20 mins or so away.. well its cool you know i see him when hes by my work, which is about maybe once a week, i talk to him everyday so why be complaining you know?
well were still talking and he told me "i honestly like everything about you, and its not just looks, your so unique and i actually feel happy. i dont know why i didnt see it before (:" and i was so unsure on what to say back. i mean is that good or bad?! ha. so we keep talking and i tell him that i too really like him hes different then all the guys i've ever dated and i need change in my life. theres just some conection honestly.. and he apparently feels it too. however.. this phone call issue has sort of gotten to me.. he will say "okay im gunna call you in a bit (:" then two hours go by and he calls for like two minutes.. and that time he says "hey whats up?" i said "nothin getting ready for the concert" and he said "oh cool cool" then i said "what are you up to" and he said "oh im gunna go to this youth group thing in (blank) with one of my girlfriends, known he forever shes like me sister is that okay?" and im thinking.. i cant even get him to come see me 20 mins away, but hes gunna go through my city, to get to another town with this girlfriend of his, but yet he likes me oh so much? but i cant tell him no.. so i said yeah sure go ahead.. then he rushes off the phone and thats it. doesnt call til later that night.. becuase i felt worried.. i mean he says all this stuff but yet i felt like i was nothing to him.. so i asked "where do i stand with you honestly?" and he said "you stand really good, someone i can see myself with. honestly i know you like me for me and thats one thing that most girls dont do..i always get the "your so hott" instead of it being my personality"
occasionally he will mention "doing stuff" and i told him i dont just hook up with random people.. its someone i like and am in a relationship with.. and he said oh thats cool, well im not random (:.. and im thinking so what you just want some from me now? then he says how he likes to be single but if he finds that right girl he can be a boyfriend to someone too. well we talked last night for like 4 hours and i asked him why his last relationship didnt work out.. and he tells me.. he really loved her but she had a boyfriend and they're was so much drama, he just realized it wont work.. but then he also said how he called her yesterday to see her in person and talk about stuff.. i just dont understand..
i did see him the day before the concert and he came into my work, while i waited for a friend so we could eat there.. and he came in to say hi and gave me the biggest hug. he told me i looked beautiful and i was so nervous and happy.. and on his way out of the door, he was nervous and turned around to look at me.. he pushed on the wrong side of the door handle that he couldnt get it open.. haha.
so what do you think? does he like me, or no? one minute it seems like it.. then the next i feel like he's just being a sweet talker ya know? i thank you honestly for reading this.. i dont know how to make it any smaller lol.
thank you (:
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Wow, that was a long question.
I'm gonna try to make this short and sweet because people who like to write a lot generally don't like to read a lot, so I'm gonna try to help you as much as possible without taking up all of your time...
You just got out of a relationship that lasted two and a half years, and people who get out of relationships that last that long tend to forget how to approach new situations. The dating scene is hard for anyone to break into, but it's especially hard for people who haven't been in the scene for a while. Because of this, I think your expectations were too high and that you came on way too strong.
The first way you came on too strong was by getting overly excited the first time he showed you some attention. You shouldn't be that excited about anyone wanting to hang out with you. The second way you came on too strong was by texting him so often. That kind of clingy behavior usually scares most guys away unless they want to use it to their advantage to get you into bed. Now you've fallen in his trap.
Before he didn't seem interested, now that he thinks of you as desperate, he's suddenly very interested. That sounds suspicious to me, and I advise you to be careful. If you want a fun and meaningless fling with this guy, I think he's just the guy for the job. If you're investing any kind of emotion into him, I think you're making a mistake. You've got something that he wants, and I think now he's excited thinking it'll be easy to get it from you.
So no, I don't think he genuinely likes you, but I think he's interested in making you think that he does. You should see this guy as a danger sign and realize that you need to slow way down. Going from being with someone for almost three years to already liking someone else and questioning their motives is crazy fast. Consider taking some time for yourself that doesn't involve boys. Being the girl who always needs a guy isn't the kind of girl you should be.
Don't neglect yourself for the attention of others. :)
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guys suck in other words hun lol. but to me it seems like he is not basically a 'playa' but likes the single life alot, and sees u as more then a friend but kind of a friend with possibly beniefits. he deffingelty doesnt seem liek the boyfriend type, or he would have gone to see you alredy. he is def a great sweet talker from what ive herd so far, but i dont personally think hes a boyfriend material kinda guy.i hope things turn out for the best hun =] good luck
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