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what should i do about him
Well there's this guy who I met in the beginning of the year. Okay, well I met this guy in one of my classes. We were in the same group [we had to sit in groups of four] and we always talked. He would give me hugs in the hallways, he would wave to me, and he would be..well..you know, a friend. I developed a little crush on him. On Halloween, my friend and I went to his house and had a good times. But, he was really quite. He was usually loud and talkative. After the semester ended the teacher moved us seats. So now, I didn't sit next to him. We would see each other in the hallways and he would just wave and I would wave back. Two weeks after we moved seats he stopped talking to me. He would always stare at me when I walked passed him. Well, two of his best friends were in my first period. And they would always talk about him. As I kept hearing stuff about him, I stopped liking him. And every morning they would say weird stuff about him. And by then I wished I have never met him. But then towards the end of the school year I realized that he starting looking dirtier, like he hasn't taken a shower in days. He has changed a lot. I overheard his friends talking about him and all his friends doing drugs. And as soon as I heard that, I just really didn't want anything to do with him. Not only because he does drugs, but he also told me and my friend that he would never do that and he would never hang out with people who did that. So, he lied to us. I was so mad, I really didn't care what happens to him. I didn't want to hear from him at all. Well, my friend still talks to him. And I can't help it..I still like him. And I want him to stop doing we he does. But I don't know how to tell him. I haven't talked to him since the second quarter. And if I do talk to him about it, he might think that it is none of my business and he would start asking me where I heard all this stuff. I really do want him to stop. Not because I have a little crush on him. But, deep deep inside I care about him and I do want him to be healthy. What should I do? I am so confused. Arg. Help me.
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You really NEED to talk to him. You guys need to repatch your relationship, and asks whats wrong. Ask him whats going on, if you theres anything wrong at all, you can help him. But you need to talk to him soon, the longer you wait the more awkward things will become.
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It def is not smart to get involved with him, but we cant always help who we like. Start some conversations with him on how he looks different, and then it all comes down to confronting him. Its important that you remind him you want him to stop because you care. He might get defensive but dont give up. If no one else will step up you need to be the positive influence that will keep him going even though what he's doing is wrong.
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confront him. he needs someone in his life to guide him and help him out of his troubles. it looks like hes going downhill and not looking after himself. tell him he needs to stop doing drugs and hes going to ruin his life, but dont, whatever you do, get caught up in his lifestyle and start doing drugs like him. if you cant do this, then leave him. hes not popular and rumours about you doing drugs with him will probably go around if you choose to hang around with him. if you really care about him though, do what i first said and try and help him out of his troubles.
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