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Stress
What is a good way to deal with stress? 15/F
A while back i "heard" my parents in their bedroom and can't get over it. I've talked to them about it but still can't. I'm ALWAYS afraid I'll hear them agian so I'm always stressed.
Also you know when there are love scenes in movies and they start doin it I get mad and think that because my mom and dad watched that they will later and it just bugs me SOOO much that my parents do it. Those scences make me feel really uncomfortable and makes me more stressed, sometimes even when people are makin out it makes me feel that way.
This will sound gross but when those scenes come on I get like a heart-beat or something down around my vigina and it doesn't stop unless I rub it...I get discusted with myself.
I don't know how to get over the fact that i think sex is discusting. I hate it when my parents even bring it up...or it comes on tv like i said. It gets me so mad. I feel stressed out all the time please help!
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The way you're feeling when you see things like that is completely normal. You shouldn't feel disgusted with yourself if you masturbate. It's a normal & healthy thing. It actually relieves stress & tension.
However, talk to your parents about sex. It's embarassing, yeah, but it's a talk you need to have someday. Why not now? Explain to them that hearing them have sex has made you feel really uncomfortable & stressed & you'd like it if they waited until you were out of the house to do such things so you didn't happen to hear it or walk in or something.
I'm pretty sure they'll understand. But if you're honestly disgusted with masturbating, & you need a different way to relieve stress, take a walk or go to a friend's house. I usually go on walks when I'm stressed out and it helps out a lot.
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Well, I don't know if you were brought up in a house that looks down upon that kind of thing. Your parents are just trying to get you to understand that it's something everyone does at some point in their life, and it's completely normal. I would be scared too if i heard my parents doing it. But it's a good sign, it shows they still love each other. Maybe they're trying to have more children. Don't worry, I used to be the same way. Whenever my brother's brought up sex for whatever reason, or I was watching a movie and there was a scene like that I would usually leave the room, or make up some excuse. I'm still a little uncomfortable in certain circumstances. But sooner or later you have to realize that it's absolutely normal. You are a teenager, you are growing, not sure of your feelings, why you feel like that, or what to do about those feelings.
My point is, don't feel disgusted because of how you feel, because everyone gets that feeling. All you have to do is let nature be nature.
What you have isn't entirely stress, your mind isn't mature as it should be, and you aren't used to the fact that sex is normal, and it's okay to feel like that.
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I'm sorry, your not going to like my advice... but it's only as disguisting as you make it. Really, sex is only as imporant as you make, so acknowledge that everyone does it, at one point or another.
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