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My Parents Are Impossible!!!!!!!!!!
13/f (Sorry, but this is kinda long)
okay, so my mom is american and my dad is full mexican. Well, my dad gets mad at me for the simplest of things, like one time I got up to go to the bathroom at 11:30 on a weekend night, I got yelled at and my dad pitched a fit! And my mom is always saying rude things about me, like oh, honey, you can't do it. You won't pass that test! And my sister makes it worse by tattling on everything I do and hogging all my stuff. My family is freaking messed up! I'm the middle child by the way.I have an older brother whom I never get to see cuz he's so busy, and I was closest to him so it makes me mad/sad. My younger sister is teh evil one who people say is an angel! I'm really fed up with this crap. I';ve tried to talk to them, but no, they're too busy and they don't freaking care! I tried everything to keep calm! Listening to music, reading, writing, playing with my dogs, talking to a friend, nothing works! Sure they're my family, but they're so annoying! So what is families are supposed be like that. Is your dad supposed to throw you outside at age 8 just for telling your sister to stop bugging you and 'accidently' forgetting aobut you until 1:00 am.m?! Is your mom supposed to let your sister have a friend over and not you because your sister is the youngest?! Is your sister allowed to beat the crap out of you when you're just watching TV?! I'm really mad at them especially today! Could somebody please give advice about what to do?
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You're obviously very angry and I think that's more to do with how it's all built up to it - not a healthy thing at all. I think firstly you should try talking to your councillor at your school (generally all schools have them nowadays and you can talk to them in strict confidence).
I can truly relate to you though because there's a lot of times that I think my family is messed up. My youngest brother gets away with anything at all. I mean a £200 phone bill because he was calling some girl up constantly on her cell phone and *I* had to pay his share because not only does he have no money but also because I couldn't afford to have the phone line cut off because I needed it for the internet and therefore for my work! That pissed me off especially since my parents didn't say anything to him other than a slap on the hand, I mean wtf! It's annoying and it annoys the hell out of me (that was just starters there's a lot of similarities we share I'm sure when it comes to parents) but the best thing to do is the same thing I do, which is deal with it as best you can. The school councillor is a very good start, I really think you should look into that as it will help with the stress.
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your just like me i get yelled for anything my older sister is never home and my little brother beats the crap ou of me.what i do is go for a walk or bike ride and just let all my feelings out.And when i get really mad i talk to the guidance conusler at school and it helps.
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I know exactly what you mean! I am the oldest of 2 and my sister is 4 years younger than me which makes her a natural tattle tail and my dad comes from a strict old fashion family so he acts like his dad did... and well my mom shes just always bitchy and thinks my sister is almighty and im the failure.
All I can tell you is it gets better with age. At your age I was about to pack my bags up and leave.. i seriously had it. And at 17 although I still have my share of fights and dissagreements I basically just shake it off.. remeber I'll be gone at school in a year and no matter how much I complain nothing is going to change.
My younger sister is bigger than me and a year older than you so she is a big time PMSer and its annoying but the calmer I keep myself the calmer she becomes... basically Its no fun to annoy someone who isnt going to get annoyed.
Keeping calm is one big thing you have to do. I am a teenager and I know what kind of self centered atitude I had and what i still have as a female the less you yell and the more you act calm like an adult and just talk after everyone has cooled down the more your parents will listen to you. They are still grasping with the fact that you are growing up and not there baby anymore and its hard to let go of that control.
You said they won't listen? Find a time after the arguement to calmly confront them and just talk.. If its just one of your parents that won't listen talk to the other one.. ask if you can maybe take a walk to the local ice cream place your treat and talk or just go for a walk in general. the mor serene and private it is the better.
I know its rough especially when the baby in the family gets everything. Its not fair I agree but thats life in most families and nothing can change that. Just as I said be calm and mature. If you want friends over plan in a few days ahead of time when you know no one is busy .
and Relax
things will only get better but you must be positive for things to change
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