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Dad and relationship delema, HELP
15/f yes i know, im kinda young, but i have a boyfriend and weve been dating for 4 months. Im haveing a delema here, my dad and mom were highschool sweethearts till they got divorsed. Soooo my dad thinks that when i have a boyfriend it shouldnt be a loong relationship. I told my dad that i like him a lot and that im not going to make the same mistake he did, i also told him that im not stupid and that im happy with the person im with. My mom and dad didnt get along at all. My question here is how do i convince my dad into letting me date for a long time. [ps] im not saying that im gonnna be with him forever but lets just say were gonnabe together for a while --> thanks =]
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You need to remind your father that no two relationships are alike. Just because he had an experience that ended badly doesn't mean that you will. While your relationship is similar to your father's because you met your boyfriend in high school just like he met your mom in high school, I'm sure that you met in different ways, interacted differently, and will eventually have different problems and different obstacles to face.
Tell your father that you respect his authority, but that you would prefer it if he let you make your own mistakes and learn things on your own. Tell him that his good intentions to protect you from the pain of heartbreak are appreciated and that you love him for it, but at the same time he's keeping you from experiencing the joys of first love and true love. If you approach talking to your father with maturity and have an appreciative attitude (because he is trying to do a good thing), he'll be much easier to persuade to give you a chance to make your own decision.
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Tell him that every relationships ends for a different reason. That you can't help that his and your moms relationship ended like it did, but it doesn't have to be the same with you and your boyfriend. Explain to him that you are not thinking about marriage with this boy, but you want to have the oppurtunity to be with him for awhile.
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