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Love or Lust?
How do you know whether a boy actually really likes you or just wants to have sex with you?
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Love is when a guy goes out of his way to be nice to you or help you. He really cares about you. There are many little ways he can show it. If he calls you just to say hi. If he asks you about your life and your problems, and offers advice. Basically, if you two can hang out WITHOUT having sex....then you know he probably loves you. However, a guy looking for just sex would not do any of this. He would just call you up and ask you to come over. Nothing more.
And I'm a guy, by the way.
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Well, looks are deceiving. Some boys make it more obvious by sexual remarks. If you're with the guy and he wants to be alone.. wants to make out with you all the time. Then yeah, it's more of a sexual thing. You really need to get to know the guy. You could know the guy for a month and he seems really sweet and innocent.. but yet, you really aren't that close. If he sticks around for a couple more months then he must have an interest in you. The boys that want sex, usually don't stick around if they aren't getting any. They just move on to another girl. Usually. Even the perverted boys can like you and just seem like they want sex. But they wouldn't pressure you into it or bother you about it.
You'll just have to go through boys and decide yourself.. and find out. If he doesn't bring up sex much around you, I'll say he likes you. But if you start going out and all you seem to do is make out.. then I'll reconsider the relationship.
Sometimes you can tell which guys just want sex by their reputation. I know it's rude to judge but if you heard from many girls who have experienced being with a guy and it's horrible.. don't bother.
But don't be quick to judge. Some of them are confusing and like to joke around. So you can't really tell, you just need to be friends with the guy to really know.
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It's hard to decide. Just pay attention to him and take your time. If he likes you he will try to hang around you, maybe put his arm around your shoulder, listen to what you say, etc. Don't let him take control though, let him know that your not interested in someone just for sex. Take things slowly, if you let him do too much too fast he will think that he can score off you. If hese still interested in you for about a month or so I'de say hese not just looking for some sex.
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Ok I think that if he is willing to wait for sex because you aren't comfortable with doing that currently then most likely he is a good boyfriend. He should still stick around even if you said...well i'd like to wait til marriage or til im this old or whenever YOU are ready.
Its just that understanding that should be in between you too.
hope i helped
*twizz
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You have to pay attention to him closely. All guys have different personalities, so there aren't all the same signs. If he just wants to have sex, he'll be very persistant with you & most likely get too close too fast. If he really does like you, he'll listen to what you have to say, pay attention to your thoughts/feelings & take them into consideration, watch the bounderies you set, seems interested, etc. If he wants to have sex with you, you'll probably be able to tell. You have to set rules for yourself on how far you want to go with that guy. Don't ever feel pressured into having sex. If you do, he obviously only wants sex & doesn't care about your true feelings. Also, he may get angry/upset if you aren't getting as close to him as he is to you. Obviously he then just wants sex & doesn't care about anything else. If this is the case, don't just go by what he says. It's your decision too. He should care about your decision & you should only have sex if you truly love him & are in a strong relationship.
-hope that helped!♥
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