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my dad..
My dad and me uste to spend time with each other 24/7 since I was until I was about 12 or 13, when he started cheating on my mom. Then they got divorced, and now I never see him at all. We pretty much have had a fallen out ever since then. I would go see him but I don't like his family he has now. All they talk about when I'm around is how her kid gets drunk the night before and how her other kid whose younger than me cusses and smokes. So I pretty much don't like it so I don't tend on going down there, only time I go is when he makes me(court orders). All I wanted was for him to go fourwheeler riding just like we uste to just me and him but no he has to make sure awhole buncha werid people come to. So I tell him I don't want to go now and he gets mad and hangs up on me and all this. Should I just go anyways? I mean I'd rather not cause I'm pretty shy around strangers and I hate how they start talking to and go so your (dads name) kid right? you look alot like him yadda yadda yadda. What would you do? I really don't want to go around them people and I can't talk to him about it cause we'll end up arguing and we'll both end up crying and all this.
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Well even though it might be hard to talk to him on the phone just say " dad i really miss you and ever since you and mom got that divorce i truley feel that i cant see you at all and i just want you and me time, we cant spend as munch time we could together, i know that you have another family but you see them all of the time and if i feel like this than that must have to mean SOMETHING that i am missing out a part in your life. So maybe just you and i can go to spend a day together.
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Awwwww, I'm so sorry. That really stinks. I kind of know how you feel, because my dad remarried and I never really got along with his new wife.
Hmmmm... since it's hard to talk to him in person about this, why not try writing him a letter? You could say something like: "Dear Dad, I was just thinking about the times we used to go four wheeling and how much fun we had. I really miss those times we used to spend together, just me and you. It would really mean a lot to me if we could do that again sometimes. I know you have a family and you need to include them in things, too. But maybe we could take turns... like one time I can visit you and your family, and the next time we could do something just me and you?"
I can't guess what his reaction will be, but hey, it's worth a try! Good luck!! =]
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Use your best judgment. Don't worry about what other people think, if you really want to see your Father then go for it. If you miss him that much, spend as much time as you can without his new family around.
Try not to argue and just try to make the day with him one of the best. Just try to have fun and build a better relationship between each other, I'm sure things will go fine. :]
Good Luck.
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