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Boyfriend Cheating
My boyfriend who I have lived with for over 4 years made a pass at my friend in our house while i was upstairs. this behavior is really not his MO and never has been. he can't give me an answer why. I need to know "WHY" should i believe him?
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i cant answer WHY you should believe him since I know you shouldnt believe him... there is never a good excuse for cheating...
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First off, let me tell you that you that I am deeply sorry that you're having to go through this. The kind of pain you feel when someone you love betrays you by cheating can be devastating. It can make you wonder how someone you love so much can turn around and make you feel so much pain.
It isn't fair that you should be made to feel this way, and when you decide on the fate of your relationship with him, I hope you can find the strength to rely on common sense. It isn't easy, but it's the best way to save yourself from any future pain that he might cause for you.
There really is no excuse for cheating. Those who cheat (or try to cheat) and are genuinely remorseful usually show all the signs of remorse. The cheater may become so consumed with guilt that he or she becomes depressed, has trouble sleeping, has trouble concentrating, etc.
If he's truly sorry for what he did to your relationship, you'll know. But if there's a single doubt in your mind, the chances are that he's not sorry and you need to listen to that. If he hasn't even attempted to give you a reason why or to explain himself, then he's not sorry.
Love is not always seen in words. Love is most often seen in actions. What he says is not nearly as important as what he does. I, of course, have an option of what his actions show, but that doesn't matter. What does matter is your opinion. That's the only thing you need to focus on.
Can you live with yourself knowing that you're the kind of girl who takes back a cheater, someone who not only disrespects you but your relationship with your best friend? In one action he was willing to take the love of two people away from you - his and your best friend's.
That's something I would never forgive, but it's your life and your call. I hope you make the decision that's best for you. If you need any more advice, please read my profile and don't hesitate to ask anything. Good luck and keep me updated please. :)
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