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step dad
Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things( ive never been grounded and ive never had a curfew and my mom knows and stilll doesnt care that my sisters and i are big partiers) and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do?
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Well, your mother is married to this guy. So, technically, he is your father figure. That means that you have to respect him.
I'm not saying change your entire life, but maybe take his rules into perspective. Ask yourself this: should a 16 year old really be partying with no curfew? Well, if you ask me, the answer is no.
I know this is annoying to hear, but coming from a 17 year old, someone close to your age, maybe you'll see that there's truth in it. A lot of bad things happen to young naive girls who go party all the time. No matter how mature or smart you think you are, things happen. Maybe it's good that your step father is more protective than your mother. That just means he cares about your wellbeing.
From what I read, your mother sounds TOO lenient. Parents are supposed to give their children curfews and actually care that their teenage daughter is partying all the time. That's just a good parent right there.
Just put yourself in your dad's shoes and try to understand where he's coming from. Hopefully he'll understand that you need SOME freedom and it may be hard for you to change because you've been living this way for so long and you don't know anything different. If you understand each other and communicate with each other about your problem, maybe you can reach some middle ground and you can both be happy.
I hope this helps you out a little or at least makes you think. :]
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