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i have a bit of a problem
i can't talk to girls to save my life
i try, and i fail...miserably
like...i'll post on her wall or something, then she'll say something back and i have no idea what to say next so i just post something like "yea..." or "uh huh..." and i know i sound like i'm completely uninterested in the conversation but i actually want to try and talk to girls i'm just really, really bad at it...i cant keep a conversation going! it happened all the time at events like football games throughout the school year- i'd meet someone i liked, but i wouldn't be able to hold a conversation to save my life! so can anyone give me some tips or something to help me out? i just need some help...there's this girl i really like and wanna ask her out eventually but if i can't hardly talk to her then that will be impossible!
thank you so much in advance!
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Don't stress about it, because thats when you get nervous and say something stupid. Just be yourself, and say things that are sweet to her. If you do that, theres a good chance she'll fall for you also.
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I'm going to assume that you have no problem talking to other guys (or people in general). Talking to girls in the early stages is not much different than talking to guys. Imagine you were talking to a close friend. What would you say? For the sake of your confidence, I'd advise you to pretend that she already likes you. Now that not too far of a stretch, you're a nice guy who's interested in her, so why shouldn't she like you? The best way to have a conversation with someone you don't know well is to get them to talk about themselves that way it takes the pressure of you and you get to know them.
Here's a sample getting to know you type consversation:
You: "Hey Kylie what'd you think of that math test?"
Her: It was alright not the worst.
You: I didn't understand the way Mrs. Blank explains how to find the slope. Do you understand the stuff she writes on the board?"
There you have it: a conversation! And if you're really lucky one of these consversation could lead to an opportunity to hang out. Let's say Kylie gets the way Mrs. Blank outlines her lectures. Then you could ask her if she wants to get a pizza and go over the notes before your next math test. Getting to know a girl is nothing complicated. Making girl friends (or girlfriends) is a lot like making guy friends. You just have to take it one "hi" at a time. -Dani (f/20)
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Okay so you are slightly shy on the girls side but that's okay.
You have no need to be scared of us girls, Do you have any sisters or cousins that are girls?
If you do it's just the same as speaking to them.
Just be comfortable and the conversation should come to you, if you are lost for something to say bring up a new film or something it mind sound cheesy but oh well or something random the girl can laugh at.
If you try to hold a conversation and completely blank out then don't let it be awkward and talk about your weekend for example.
The conversation should come naturally just don't think overly much about it and it should be fine.
x hope this is of some help x
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If you worry and think more and more about what to say then you won't be able to think of anything. You have to just relax and feel comfortable around the girl. You have to pretend that you're already really close and you don't have to try andd think about what to say. It'll come naturally if you just trust yourself. Be confident. She's probably just as nervous as you hon.
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