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racism
My boyfriend is black, and i am white. he wants to hang out over the summer, but my parents are extremely racist and would NEVER let me go anywhere with him. i have told him that but i am afraid that he will break up with me if we dont see eachother all summer. ahh help me please !!!
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I know how you feel. My parents are racist too. Your best bet is to get a bunch of friends together to go see a movie or something and invite him too. Sit somewhere other than with the group or something and after the movie go back and rejoin them. Just an idea. Don't care what your parents say if you like him a lot. Do what you want.
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Your parents need to get with it and stop being so judgmental, times have changed and colour means nothing. Im in a inter ratial relationship, so are many other people. You need to not let your parents lead your heart away from where it is or who you love. They need to see that and be shown that their ideas and beliefs are absolutely false and when they see that you really care for him and he cares for you and that your serious about your feelings about him then slowly they will hopefully see the light and be not so hateful. Were all just people despite our racial or ethnic differences. Dont become like your parents and give in to something that is wrong if its not what YOU WANT. I know you don't want to jeapordize your relationship with your family but they should accept whoever it is you love or care about and just because they have their issues doesnt mean you have to suffer. Over the history we have come a long way to fight for equality and understanding among us all and I think you need to fight for your boyfriends sake and continue to be his girl despite what your family say and if they love you they wont stop loving you for who you choose to be with. They may be upset at first but that will fade when they see that he is truly a nice guy that treats you good. Although they wont let you go anywhere with him (which you should go anywhere you want with him) would they let you invite him to their house so they could see first hand that he is a nice guy and that theyre wrong for judging him to be something he is not. If they wont, then it still doesnt change my answer, racism is not right and you need to show your parents that and continue following your heart to WHOEVER it will take you to...and if that is your boyfriend, than stick with him and dont give up on him. You wouldnt like it if he stopped seeing you because his parents had issues with the fact you were white and it wouldnt make you feel loved or cared about if thats why he wont see you, because of your skin colour, so dont do that to him. Stand up for what you see is right and eventually they will come to accept it whether they like it or not, or they will learn that they were entirely wrong about passing judgment based on superficial reasons. Good luck and I hope you stick to your man and follow your heart in the right direction:)Good luck!
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just meet him somewhere besides your house.. im not with the lying thing, but tell your parents your going somewhere else and go to his house?. movies?.. dinner?.. maybe just bring him over to your house adn tell your parents?.. hope i helped
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